Why do we compare ourselves, what are the dangers of it, and how to handle it?

Sometimes comparison serves as a starting point of where we are already in life, what would we like to be, which option we choose, and how can we pick and make the best decision? We often compare ourselves to our friends or peers, colleagues, classmates, workmates, and even to the people we watch on TV, such as those we look up to.

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We often compare ourselves, specially if we are average to that of other people, and it lowers our self-esteem if we see that they have the better features compared to us. Occasionally, we also compare ourselves to less fortunate, and it uplifts our self-esteem, or sense of self, if we see that we are better than they are.

Not all, will experience the bad effects of this kind of attitude, specially if we can still control ourselves, and accept the reality. But honestly, there are many people who indulge in this kind of attitude, and sometimes they come to the point that they are already losing themselves because of this habit.

The fast-paced environment, technology, trends, and effects of our social life contributes to comparing ourselves.

Take note:

There will always be someone out there who will look happier, more successful, wealthier and healthier apart from us. We have to realize this because it’s the reality! This will help us to be aware of ourselves, and when we are already aware, we can then easily find ways on how to avoid and stop this kind of thinking.

What are the dangers of comparing ourselves:

  • Feelings of jealousy
  • Low self-esteem/low self-confidence
  • Anxiety and depression
  • ruined relationship
  • Emptiness
  • Feeling deprived
  • wasting of time
  • Self-destruction
  • Resentment
  • It will take your happiness
  • It will destroy your progress, and goals in life.

How to stop comparing yourself?

  • Have self-awareness
  • Love and accept yourself
  • practice gratitude, be happy and be thankful for what you have.
  • Be contented for what you have.
  • Focus on your strengths
  • Learn to appreciate others
  • Go away from situations that can trigger it, just like spending too much time with the social media. Be aware that social media is a mixture of fantasy and reality.
  • Take note that comparing yourself to other people isn’t good for your health. You can read this separate post: Health implications of your attitude.

Verse to remember:

1 Corinthians 4:7 NLT
For what gives you the right to make such a judgment? What do you have that God hasn’t given you? And if everything you have is from God, why boast as though it were not a gift?

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You may also want to read this post compilation of self-development.


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