How to manage negative people or haters?

How to manage negative people or haters?

How do you deal with haters? Are you the one who easily gets affected by the words or actions that other people are doing or telling about you? We are living in a world wherein we share our personal thoughts and opinions online! So it’s not just one, not two, but a lot of people can see what we share online. That’s why we should always be reminded of this phrase “think before you click”.

You cannot control what other people might think of you but you can always control your mind”. I love this words that was being said by the partner of a celebrity, who advised her on dealing about bashers, we all know that in the world of showbiz there are many people who will love or will idolize you but there will also a lot of people who will hate or bash you. Same as with people who are non-showbiz, there are also people out there who will not agree to the way you act, the way you talk, the way you share your opinion, the way you work etc. but always make sure to be in control about all of these because dealing with negative people or haters will cause depression, stress, inability to focus, withdrawal from social life, problems in performing daily tasks etc.

Those people who keep hatred in their hearts are putting themselves to suffering. If you keep hating other people tendencies are: you cannot sleep well, you cannot eat well, you are prone to hypertension, heart diseases and other illnesses, you look unwell etc. So whom do you think is much affected, the hater who keeps criticizing or the person who aren’t affected by all those criticisms?

Things that you can do to manage negative people or haters:

  • Examine yourself, be aware of your own actions, make sure you are not doing the wrong thing.
  • Turn those haters like a gasoline or fuel that will enhance your capability more and will help you drive to something better.
  • Negative people will criticize you because they have problems about fulfillment, so take it as a compliment. You are far better so stay blessed and be humble.
  • Just continue to be a good person, there will come a time that they will realize that it’s not worthy to keep hating other people.
  • Be grateful each day and always be kind and respectful even to your haters.

Something to note: “Control your mind and emotions, free yourself from negative people and just go on with your life”.

How to choose the right gifts and what are the things you need to consider?

How to choose the right gifts and what are the things you need to consider?

Christmas season is the best time for celebration because it also means there are fewer work duties and school holiday break is also implemented, so there will be lots of time to be with your family. It’s a time for relaxation, eating meals together, bonding moments, and gift giving. It’s already a part of our culture and tradition especially during Christmas to prepare something for our loved ones and to other people whom we like to offer a present, but choosing gifts can also bring about a little stressful moment because you need to think of what to give and whether the gift you want to give for a specific person will be appreciated.

Here are some helpful tips that could help you choose the right gift:

  • List who are the person whom you want to include in your gift giving. Maybe they are your family members, relatives, friends and other people.
  • What they do in life? Their hobby or work and what do they need? Gifts are very much appreciated if they can be able to use it for their work, activities or passion.
  • Do already have any experience in giving gift to this specific person? What have you observed about his or her reaction when he or she received or opened the gift coming from you? You can also use this questions to determine what gift is suitable to give to this person.
  • Consider the personality of that person. Is he or she a jolly or a serious type of person? What are their values and beliefs in life? These are good basis for you to determine what are the right gift that will suit your receiver.

Things you need to consider:

  • Your budget- of course you want to give something special for everyone on your list, but it doesn’t mean it needs to be expensive. A person wouldn’t appreciate an expensive thing which he or she can’t even use.
  • Go shopping for gifts with your list on hand, to avoid panic-buying and for you to be able to stick on the things you’ve decided to buy.
  • If you are a crafty person, try to make handmade gifts that are suitable for the person whom you want to give, it’s a practical and economical way of preparing a gift.
  • If you are good in baking and cooking you can make some of this recipes as a gift. Everyone loves to eat anyway but you should also consider their taste and food preference.

Gift giving isn’t something about you, it’s not because you want it for someone else but it’s all about the person who will receive the gift coming from you. Give because you know they need it and they can be able to use it. Don’t just give for the sake of the word giving”.

How to deal with boredom in a relationship?

How to deal with boredom in a relationship?

Boredom in relationship.

Is the word boring really exists in a relationship? Have you ever experienced it? How did you deal with it? This post will tackle about why some relationships are experiencing boredom and tips on how you can deal and pass through it.

We can feel different emotions and that’s why we’re able to express different feelings too. One of them is the feeling of being bored. Let’s say, for example, when you do an activity for a very long time, and it’s already repeating, what can you feel? Boredom, will come out in a relationship if you aren’t doing something that fulfills both of you. It becomes stagnant, the relationship is already unproductive and could be the start of undesirable breakup stories. Never come into a point that you’ll never do something about it! If you love that person, fight for him/her, and please never be defeated by boredom in your relationship. Save your relationship while you can. Slowing down in your relationship is normal, don’t expect it to be the same just as when you were starting your love story or during the first year of being together. It’s not always like that, and it’s not like a fairy tale love story. You’re dealing with a real life-love story that you really need to work on, in order for it to be successful.

Here are tips that you may consider in dealing with boredom in your relationship:

  • It is important to spend time together and identify one thing that makes you happy and attached.
  • What is that hobby or activity that when you do will enhance your relationship more?
  • Come up with a shared to-do-list.
  • Make something new in a weekly basis.
  • Open up your feelings, so that he/she would be aware of what’s inside you.
  • Appreciate your partner, connect with him/her always.
  • Go for a date, and enjoy each other’s company.

“To achieve the love story that everyone dreams to have, you need to ensure a give and take relationship, love more, so you could receive more, be faithful, respectful and honest all the time. Enjoy and cherish each moment of being together. Consider your partner your little home”.

Why we should open our hearts and be generous to those in need?

Why we should open our hearts and be generous to those in need?

How does it feel to be generous specially to those who really need it the most? This post will tackle about having a generous heart. What does generosity means? It’s a kind of personality that deals with the good aspect of life. It comes from pure intention, to give by not expecting anything in return. As a prerequisite we should be able to feel the love, happiness, compassion and kindness so that we can generously give our effort, time, money, stuffs or food to other people who are in need.

Christmas season is a month wherein we feel most of the love, appreciation, joy and generosity coming from our family, relatives, friends and other people. This season should serve also as a good reminder that it shouldn’t be just for this month alone but it should be all year round. We have 12 months in a year, why don’t we give it a try to make every month or everyday full of love and grace? This way we could lessen the burden of other people who are really in need, a lot of people out there are thinking of what to eat, what to drink and what to wear! Why don’t we share something if we are able or if we can? Why don’t we share a meal to a hungry stomach? Why don’t we give clothings to those who have nothing to use? Why can’t we share our precious time, why can’t we bring a smile to someone’s face? They don’t need expensive clothings, a super delicious food, lots of attention and time anyway. They need something that comes from our heart, it doesn’t matter how much or how simple it is, what we really offer them is “hope” to just go on in life.

It should be the theme of Christmas “To boost our generosity”, for sure God would be so happy seeing all of us helping hands together.

Why is social connection very much important?

Why is social connection very much important?

Social connection

Why do you think we need to connect to different people? This post will tackle the benefits, ways to improve your connection and the things you can do to connect with other people.

Connection is important whatever work, job, or business you have in life. We are here on Earth not just for our loved ones, but also for “other people”. We should not limit ourselves to connect with them because there are many advantages that it can bring to our life.

What are the benefits of social connection?

  • It can help us emotionally because it lowers anxiety, fear of rejection and depressive moods.
  • It helps us to feel good, specially when we go outside.
  • Furthermore, it helps to improve self-esteem or self-confidence, we’ve got to relate to different kinds of personalities that’s why we’re able to adjust easily.
  • It can even help you achieve your goals, for example if you are a business owner, it can help your business grow because people would trust your brand.
  • It improves our social well-being and help us to achieve wellness.
  • Not only that, but it helps you to be more successful at your work or job because many people would love to work with people whom they already know.

What are the ways to improve your connection?

  • You have to know what are your connection needs?
  • Make sure to converse and share your ideas, do not be selfish.
  • You must be willing to understand and feel the situation.
  • Avoid being negative and make sure to control your tone of voice and emotion.
  • Be genuine about your intention.
  • Appreciate and compliment more.

What are the things you can do to build a connection with someone?

  • Build trust, so that the person will feel at ease when speaking with you.
  • Be friendly and cheerful, the expression of your face is a great way to know your personality, so don’t hide that smile on your face.
  • Ask questions that are answerable with numerous ideas, rather than by yes or no only.
  • To avoid being judgmental, you have to consider their opinion or suggestions to whatever topic you are dealing about.
How to keep a good relationship with your spouse till the end?

How to keep a good relationship with your spouse till the end?

Is this possible? Yes, and to make it possible both of you should be willing to work on it. This post will tackle how to keep your relationship with your husband or wife on the right path! You might already have heard of this quote “just keep the fire burning”. It means that your connection with each other in a daily life basis should be warmth with so much love, attention and compassion. These are important things to keep on track for a relationship to stay stronger all the way.

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Here are some helpful tips that you may consider:

  • In the morning when you wake up, be sure to give him or her a beautiful smile and a comfy hug, as this will always mean a lot to your spouse.
  • Dedicate hours of a no gadgets in your hands at home. Use that time to make a happy moment together, hold his or her hand and talk about your beautiful experiences, plans about the future or any topic that would engage both of you.
  • Let him feel that he is always valuable and always show your appreciation to him or her. When you were at the stage of knowing each other, surely you had already said a lot of beautiful words to appreciate him or her, why not do it a habit to still find words of appreciation for his or her little life achievements.
  • Find reasons to smile and laugh together. Your relationship will face a lot of challenges, but you shouldn’t take it so seriously to the point that smiles already aren’t visible in your faces.
  • Be the one to take the first step if you have misunderstandings, do not wait for who should start to say sorry or who should approach first to fix things right.
  • Always tell him or her how much he or she means to you, the word I love you will always mean a lot.
  • Plan for a date, dating life shouldn’t stop the moment you are already married, always find time.
  • Always avoid being judgmental, we cannot hide the fact that sometimes a misunderstanding will take place in your relationship but make sure to talk about it and fix it immediately.
  • Make decisions together, include him or her in your life decisions whatever it is, because it will give him or her a message that you care for any opinions or suggestions that he or she will say.
What are the things and important reminders you need to know before a storm?

What are the things and important reminders you need to know before a storm?

During a storm, there are many lives, trees, animals, houses, and material possessions that are being damaged. That’s why preparation and alertness are important in times like this.

But, what are the things and important reminders you need to know before a storm?

Reminders before a storm.
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  • Food products (easy to open and ready to eat foods like canned goods, cup noodles, biscuit, precooked rice and dish, safe drinking water, hot water dispenser or thermos with hot water).
  • Health kit or first aid kit that includes over the counter medications to relieve unexpected sicknesses like fever, headache or vertigo, stomach problems like diarrhea or constipation, and maintenance medications if ever a family member is currently taking it. You also need vitamins to boost your immunity and to be able to fight this stressful event. Also include in your health kit personal hygiene essentials like tooth brush, toothpaste, wipes, soap, alcohol etc.
  • Prepare a family bag kit that includes clothing, towels and blankets for family members.
  • Alertness and prayers! We need to be vigilant enough, listen to the authorities and news regarding the storm updates. We also need to keep calm and pray!
  • Teach family members, specially the young ones, on the proper actions if ever there is an emergency.
  • During a storm expect to experience disconnected electricity power, so make sure to charge your cellphones or anything you can use as a mode of communication, if possible have a battery operated radio to stay updated regarding the storm news.
  • You may also want to secure your important documents in a plastic envelope and other valuables like money, jewelries and other gadgets.

In life, there will be countless storms, but always remember that there will always be a new beginning! The sun will shine brighter than what you expected.


Why you shouldn’t give honey to an infant?

Why you shouldn’t give honey to an infant?

Honey not for infants

Infants are young children who are under one year of age and defined as the first year of life and the period wherein most rapid growth is happening after their birth or delivery. Their immune system is weak and that’s why you have to be careful on the things, materials, and foods that may come in contact with their mouth. Their feeding bottles should be sterilized well before mixing the milk to ensure a clean and safe milk consumption.

The materials or things that they are using must also be cleaned well, to avoid harmful microorganisms. Introducing solid foods to them was very exciting. But be cautious enough to the kind of food that you will be giving. Your food preparation matters a lot, be sure that they are clean, safe to eat and soft (for better food digestion and absorption), also to avoid the dangers of choking.

Children at this stage of life are prone to get cough and colds, and sometimes home interventions are one of the few actions that some parents will take. You probably heard that honey are good and very therapeutic in dealing with cough and colds, and they also have a lot of health benefits to offer? Yes, it’s one of the most beneficial substances to go through specially as medicinal products, but be informed that it should not be given to infants because it contains dormant endospores of the bacterium clostridium botulinum. According to our health food source, the endospores can transform into toxin which are very dangerous to infants immature intestinal tracts leading to serious illness and even death.

Health benefits of having a dog in the house

Health benefits of having a dog in the house

Do you have a dog/dogs at home? Do we need to treat them as one of our family members too? Just like human beings, we also have to take good care of our pets. They need to be treated also as a part of a family, not just as a pet that serves as a happy companion in the house. They are a blessing from above. So, we have to love them as well. Furthermore, they all have something to impart in our life.

Here are some of the health benefits that a dog can give to the owner:

  • According to studies, the bond between the dog and the owner can increase physical fitness. Brisk walking with your dog early in the morning can help your blood to circulate well. They motivate you to exercise and can help you achieve overall health.
  • A dog can boost your mental health, relieves your stress and anxiety in life.
  • They can help with your emotional health too, they lessen or removes your feeling of loneliness. Gives you comfort and love, thus making you happy daily.
  • They also can help with your social well-being, when you walk around with your dog in the park, there are high chances that you can also meet other pet owners who can talk and socialize with you.
  • A dog can also help you with the feeling of security, they have a heightened sense of hearing and smelling which can alert you of a danger.

Tips to consider in achieving a happily ever after in married life

Tips to consider in achieving a happily ever after in married life

Are you happy or struggling in your married life? Read this INFINITE love advices that can help you achieve a good definition of marriage.

A marriage is the union between a man and a woman. It’s the beginning of creating a family on your own, and it’s a lifelong commitment. So, be sure to commit yourself faithfully to your husband or wife. It’s not just a physical or emotional attachment. It’s not just about the feelings, saying those heart melting words everyday coming from each other’s mouth, but it’s also a matter of mental, social, and spiritual attachment.

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Consider these INFINITE love advices below:

  • It is important to give each other lots of mutual love, respect, and trust that is loaded with essential amount of compassionate heart and mind.
  • Note that you should choose to fall in love for the same person you exchanged vows with, remember that feeling when the two of you exchanged the promises of love? The excitement, the happiness, the sounds of your pumping heart saying that “lub-dub”, and the feeling of butterflies in your stomach? These are good memories to remember, isn’t it?
  • Feed your relationship with a supplemental dose of admiration and pour a never-ending love and care into your relationship. Be the best teammate or team buddy for your spouse that he/she will ever have!
  • Incorporate happiness, make countless memories of togetherness. Bonding is an essential part of any relationship. You get to know more about your partner, and when you grow old you can share beautiful memories with your children.
  • Never be tired of forgiving each other’s mistakes, forgive them when they let you down. This is just a normal scenario, sometimes what seems a mistake for you doesn’t seem a mistake on your partner’s perception. What’s important is to inform him/her and be clear about it.
  • Inculcate in your mind to keep a promise of never giving up on each other. You may disagree on numerous things, but be sure to keep agreeing of never leaving and never giving up on your relationship.
  • There are no perfect marriage, but there is a good marriage. Note that good marriage isn’t something you’ll just find a long the way, it is something beautifully made and created by two hearts and souls willing to build each other despite differences.
  • Eliminate your pride, step down to let them shine too, be a cheerleader he/she can lean on. Occasionally, a couple were not equal regarding personal matters, how they think, their financial status, and in terms of professional identity. But be reminded that when you entered a marriage, you are unified and blessed as “one body and soul”.
Just take it one day at a time

Just take it one day at a time

Are you the type of person that is always worrying about what will come or will happen tomorrow? Maybe some of you already have heard about this phrase. “Just take it one day at a time”. This phrase, teaches us to enjoy each day by not worrying of what will happen next, to live a happy life each day and to be able to enjoy the moment.

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Here are some friendly notes that would help you achieve this daily:

ONE DAY AT A TIME“.

  • Offer yourself relaxation techniques- (such as deep breathing, meditation and yoga) to relax your mind, body, and spirit.
  • Never allow yourself to indulge in too much worrying- it’s normal to feel this emotion, but it should easily disappear, and you should be able to handle it without stressing too much.
  • Energized your body- feed your body with fruits and vegetables. They are nutrient rich foods that would help your system to cheer up.
  • Deal with your problems responsibly, you have to accept it that no one will be going to do it apart from yourself, find a solution and always be calm in dealing with it.
  • Aim for achievable goals- do not do things which are beyond your expectations. Just focus on the things you know you can achieve to avoid frustration.
  • Yes to a happy day ahead!- keep this in mind as it will motivate you to keep going and be productive all day long.
  • Accept advice and support from the right people- some people are there ready to help you, appreciate and be thankful for their positive intentions.
  • Time is important- time spent today will never come back again. So, what you have to do is to use it wisely on the things that are most valuable to you.
  • Accept responsibility- we have daily responsibilities. What we need to do is to accept it and be optimistic about it.
  • The power of praising yourself- never end a day without praising yourself for a job well done.
  • Inculcate in your mind the virtue of patience- this is a challenge that we have to fulfill daily, some of us are always rushing to see results which makes us uncomfortable and brings worries and frustrations in our head.
  • Maintain positive life- being positive and having a cheerful outlook in life is significant because it lightens our daily loads.
  • Enhance your capability and thinking- read more, search more and do your best!

If you are tired, get some rest, life is like a long road

If you are tired, get some rest, life is like a long road

It’s a beautiful day, as I walk going outside to buy some food to the nearby food store this morning. I saw a woman sitting in a chair near the gate. She looks so tired, sweaty, and looking down at her feet while stretching her arms. Perhaps she was so tired carrying her loads (the things she bought). She has two echo bags beside her, and she looks so deep. She might be thinking of what to cook or prepare for their meal. Furthermore, she might be thinking about her problems. Likewise, she might be thinking about life, or she might be thinking about other people whom she is serving or obliged to serve.

Life is like a road
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All of these are just “might” because I don’t know what the woman is thinking at the moment, but if you look into her eyes, you will guess some. Every so often we can see it through the eyes what the heart wants to tell, and the body feels like. As I walk near her, I smiled and asked if she is fine. The woman answered me back, I’m fine, don’t worry, I just have to seat for a while, I think I need a moment to rest my feet, before walking again to reach our home, she said. This time we cannot ride any passenger vehicle to reach our home, it’s not allowed yet in our community because of the current situation regarding Covid-19 (I wrote this post during the pandemic). For me, it’s ok because I loved brisk walking anyway. Brisk walking is a good form of exercise that could benefit our body. It can contribute in achieving a healthy mind, it’s a good stress reliever, it’s a way for me to breathe some fresh air outside, and it also helps our body achieve a good blood circulation.

I told her, take time and take care Auntie, walk again when you already feel energized, she said thank you. Then I continued to walk, going to the food store. Going home, I reflected about the woman, I don’t know her personally, but she is one representation of a life’s journey, I think in life we really need to take time, we must not be rushing. Taking time means you don’t need to race, you don’t need to move fast, it’s ok to be slow, it’s ok to be late, you don’t need to rush. It’s ok to take the long road, and it’s ok not to be ok.

With all the pressures and challenges around us. We seem to compete, we seem to be proving ourselves to other people. You don’t need to prove yourself to other people, you don’t need to do things to be praise by anybody or anyone. If you are tired, then get some rest, get some moment to free yourself from worries and to energize your mind and body. You only have one body to maintain for a lifetime. When this body exhausted, you will experience a lot of health problems that might give you a flashback to how you treated it, so take care of it, appreciate and love that one body.