Ways to balance your life and tips to enhance your parenting skills

January 28, 2022March 26, 2024 by MJMCM ♥ 1 Comment

As parents, it’s our responsibility to look after our children, take care of them, give their needs, provide their rights, nurture and raise them well.

Balancing life and enhancing parenting skills.

We have the role of offering them the support and encouragement that could help them to get into the activities that will enable them to complete their developmental tasks. And for us to provide all of these, we have to balance also our own life.

If there is an imbalance in our life this can account for an imbalance as well in our parenting skills. So, below are some tips to help you with taking the necessary action that could help you in parenting your children.

Face your children with a relaxed mood or aura. Manage your stress, and maybe you can do some self-care activities early in the morning while they are still asleep. Consider it as your me-time routine.
Learn with your children, and do something together. Like playing with them, eating meals, and praying together.
Enjoy the night routine. This is the moment that you are complete because maybe one of you is working in the daytime. Use this time to bond and interact with your children and spouse.
Delegate and set boundaries. Do not do all the tasks alone, share your parenting roles with your spouse. You are one into this beautiful journey.
Prioritizing your well-being is a helpful way for you and your children. It increases your self-confidence as a unique person, thus improving your ability to become a good parent.
Honor each other’s words. Go along with your children. Listen to what they are saying so that they will also listen to you.
Manage your schedule and spend it wisely. To avoid getting stress that could ruin your day, you should plan things.
Be true at all times, tell your children what is going on. Update them with your current activities so that they would know why you aren’t present sometimes.
Think of every decision that you will make. Set your priorities and consider your children.
Be present if you can, especially during important days or occasions in their life.
Lastly, aim to better yourself so that you can successfully help with their development.

How to care for a sick child while at home?

January 11, 2022March 26, 2024 by MJMCM ♥ 0 Leave a Comment

There are times wherein our children get sick because of numerous contributing factors that are present around, and as they say, it’s a part of growing up. But to think that we can do something to help our children during this time is so much important.

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One common sickness that our children are getting through is seasonal flu, which can cause fever and other bodily discomforts.

A fever is a temporary elevation of our body’s temperature, due to an underlying illness. It’s a sign that something is not going well in our bodies. Usually, our body’s temperature is going up to 38’c or more.

Here are tips on how to care for a sick child while at home:

Dress him/her in lightweight, and breathable clothing. Avoid excess clothing as it will trap body heat that can contribute to a rise in body temperature.
A sick child gets tired easily. They may wake up more due to discomfort feeling from congested head and body aches. That’s why it’s essential to allow them to have enough rest and sleep.
Give the child plenty of fluids to drink, and fruits to eat. These can help in boosting his/her immune system.
Check the child’s body temperature using a thermometer. Give over-the-counter paracetamol syrup for fever (or as prescribed by the physician). Strictly follow the medication’s dosage and time. Make sure it’s age-appropriate.
Keep the room ventilated, and give time for quiet games or light activities that the child wants to do.
Make sure to provide a calm and peaceful environment.
Use your face mask.
Give the child food in his/her room. Clean the utensils well, before and after eating.
Help the child to perform his/her hygiene. Such as bathing, tooth brushing, trimming of nails, and combing the child’s hair.
Wash hands after every contact with the sick child.
Continue monitoring the child until he/she gets well.

When to call the doctor?

Call the doctor or bring the child to the nearest clinic or hospital if the child has more of the following symptoms: fever, cough, trouble in breathing, sore throat or painful swallowing, belly pain, vomiting, rashes, dizziness, and diarrhea.

A sick child gets irritated easily because of uneasy feeling, that’s why having enough patience and providing enough love and care is necessary to help him/her gets well faster.

How to have a good partner in life?

January 9, 2022March 26, 2024 by MJMCM ♥ 2 Comments

Every woman or man wishes to have a good partner, better half, or spouse in life. Someone who will be there through ups and downs, and who can give the strength to cheer each other when things go wrong.

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But how to have a good partner?

In a relationship, the golden rule applies as well. If you treat your significant other nicely, he/she will also treat you that way.

Here are tips on how to have a good partner in life:

Always make sure to give each other genuine love, trust, and honesty.
Be good regardless of what problems and challenges you are facing.
Share your life with him/her. Be each other’s coffee and cream or bread and butter.
Be his/her best friend for life. Someone who can share a shoulder to cry on, and arms to comfort when something goes tough.
Spend time communicating with your partner. Communication is very much important to succeed in any relationship.
Make your him/her smile and laugh. Have some humor. A happy relationship is a healthy life to share with your significant other.
Be supportive of each other’s choices in life.
Whenever there is a difficulty, choose to talk it out rather than blaming someone right away.
Respect your significant other, especially in front of other people, never embarrass him/her. Treat each other with dignity.
Appreciate the little things that he/she is doing.
Prioritize giving quality time and creating great memories.

A father’s endless love

November 29, 2021March 26, 2024 by MJMCM ♥ 11 Comments

If there is a mother’s endless love, there is also a father’s endless love. Because without the other you will not be around!

Though there are a few differences when it comes to their roles as parents, one thing for sure is that they have the same love and affection for their children.

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A lovable father is someone willing to sacrifice a piece of himself just to see his family lives comfortably.

They work hard to provide for the needs of the household. They even go to a far place, spend overtime at work, and do two jobs at once, just to earn more for the family. They don’t want to see their family experience a difficult situation or struggle with essential needs, and that’s something we should salute to all the sacrificial dads out there!

A father is as well a great protector and a motivator, he will do anything to help his children out of danger.

He would always choose the best option available, and give what is appropriate for his child’s development. He would assist in crafting the best that his child can be.

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Additionally, a great father is patient, kind, humble, honest, selfless, knowledgeable, and righteous. He is one of a kind!

You can’t remember this, but he also experienced sleepless nights just to help your mom bring you to a comfortable sleep at night, when you were young! He felt your cries when you feel uneasy, he felt your pain when you were hurt, and he felt so much happiness when he sees you smile and laugh.

Your father may not be the kindest of them all. He may not be the sweetest. He may not be the toughest. Furthermore, he may not be the smartest, and he may not be the wealthiest! But you should always respect him, despite his imperfections. Love and appreciate him. He may not be the perfect father that you were longing for, but he was the perfect father that God gave you. So, accept and be happy about him.

Show him as well the love and care that he gave you. Especially when he is already old and weak. He will not ask for so many things as he won’t need them already. Your time, understanding, patience, and love would be the things that he will already need.

Tips for making your three-year-old child happy on his birthday!

October 26, 2021September 18, 2022 by MJMCM ♥ 0 Leave a Comment

Yesterday was our second child’s birthday! The same day when we went to our doctor for scheduled Cesarean delivery. Though a bit nervous because it’s been five years since my last delivery. What I did at that moment is to pray and thank God for the wonderful baby that he entrusted to our care.

The same feeling five years ago! A mixed emotion because you never know what will happen after a few hours while in that delivery room, contrary to others’ belief it’s not like you are just lying there and waiting for the baby to come out!

During that time, I calmed myself and believed that everything will go well. At exactly 1:45 pm, this little boy came out in this world, making his first cry and first movements outside my womb. I can’t just explain how hubby, the eldest son, and I was so happy with the new member of our family!

Unnoticeably, day by day this little boy is growing too fast! Making countless changes as he reaches his growth and developmental milestones. We are so happy because he grows well, is healthy, and be able to reach every step accordingly.

Here are simple tips to make your three-year-old happy on his birthday:

Ask the celebrant of what food he would like on the day of his birthday! Our little one smiled and showed priceless happiness when we asked about his food choices. He showed that emotion because he believed that we like to know and consider his opinion.
Prepare ahead of time to avoid rushing on the day of your child’s birthday. Such as decorations (you can make it one day before his birthday) and a list of recipes to make or buy during your child’s birthday.
Set a specific time to start the celebration, and be able to set the table ahead of time.
Be able to know and get ready for the gift he would like to receive on his birthday.
On the day of the celebration, don’t forget to pray (depends on what religion you are), be happy, and make the moment alive by singing a birthday song before the celebrant will blow the cake’s candle!
Be able to take some pictures or videos for remembrance.

Remember, that the joy of the celebration isn’t on the food, decorations, or gifts that are to be given to the celebrant. It’s about the presence, support, and love of the people around him or her.

The priceless moment of being a parent!

October 19, 2021March 26, 2024 by MJMCM ♥ 0 Leave a Comment

It was 9:00 am that morning when I wrote this post. But it looks too early to get up! My kids are still on the bed sleeping at that time. They were maybe tired from yesterday’s fun activities and games! While sitting at the table next to them, they captured my attention, and little by little stopped my pen to write the article I supposedly writing.

Staring at their faces while they are sleeping was so calming and peaceful. It brings me a priceless moment that I enjoyed!

It makes me miss them so much. During the day, when they are at their active hours, I sometimes uttered these phrases! Please minimize your noise, please fix your toys, please listen and cooperate with mom! But then suddenly I realized that it’s their freedom, it’s their moment to be a child, to explore things, to express themselves, and it’s their time to utilize their childhood stage.

To all parents, let’s just enjoy being parents and let’s allow them to enjoy their childhood too!

Let us make it easy for them, and let us make it easy for us as well. Soon they will grow up and things wouldn’t be the same anymore! Those cluttered toys. Those noises and childish attitudes will soon change. This will make us miss them so much when we are sitting on that rocking chair with our significant other, holding hands and reminiscing the yesterdays of our lives.

Time flies so fast, and as that happens things also won’t stay the same. A few years or decades from now, they would have their own family and life apart from us. They will stay in their houses, go or work to other places and will fulfill their dreams in life through their decisions.

But what will stay in our memories, mind and hearts are the experiences we encountered and enjoyed with them. How we treat them well, how we help them with their growth and development. How we play and enjoy every activity with them, and how we instill the appropriate values they need as they grow and become good human beings, will ever be as good as wealth!

30 parenting mistakes that you should avoid!

September 26, 2021March 26, 2024 by MJMCM ♥ 0 Leave a Comment

This post will tackle about some mistakes that we must be willing to avoid as parents. Avoiding these mistakes could be very beneficial to our children’s welfare.

Yes, it’s true that as parents we can’t really avoid making mistakes 💯 percent, but we should try our best and do as we could, for the betterment of our children. Our goal as parents should be to raise a child in a way that is acceptable and right.

Bad parenting has a considerable effect later on to our children, that’s why we have to do our best to avoid those effects. Parenting is a period in our life that we should enjoy and be happy with. Be willing to set your child as your big priority now, “I am” should be replaced with “my child”.

Your child or children will grow and the time that they are young, is the best time to fulfill the love and care that they needed. To be nourished with love and affection that they will bring along as they grow old must be one of our goal as parents.

Here are the 30 parenting mistakes that you should avoid!

Being uncaring and cold.
Unrealistic expectations regarding your child’s achievements.
Being inconsistent about your parenting style.
Fighting in front of your children.
Not considering setting of limits and rules.
Ignoring the questions of your child because you are busy.
You don’t spend quality time with them.
Poor listener, you don’t mind your child’s opinion or suggestions.
Allowing bad behaviors because you think that it’s normal for kids.
You don’t supervise them, even though you are free.
You’re too authoritative and manipulative.
Not recognizing their good behaviors. You are only noticing them if they do bad, by scolding and correcting them.
You’re allowing the child do the things which are not acceptable.
You are protecting your child from failure. You’re limiting the child’s self-development.
Not offering praise for a job well done.
Criticizing and comparing them to other children.
You don’t show gratitude and positive behaviors.
You are trying to hide their negative sides.
Disciplining the child in public or in front of other people.
You always give advice, but you don’t encourage them.
You are not proud of their little efforts or life’s achievements.
Not letting them explore and learn on their own.
Not showing empathy or sympathy when they get hurt.
You are a perfectionist, trying hard to raise a perfect child.
Emotionally unavailable, you are physically present, but you don’t show it.
Doing the actions or completing tasks for your child.
Emphasizing that your child could do better than what the child can.
Telling your child not to act like a baby.
Asking the child, why are you so hard-headed?
Telling your child that children like his/her age don’t act like the way he/she does!

Let’s create a happy childhood for our children, if ever you did some things listed, please don’t think that you are too bad, recognizing and correcting those mistakes isn’t too late!

Tips when traveling with kids

July 13, 2021August 7, 2022 by MJMCM ♥ 0 Leave a Comment

This post is all about the things that we should consider while traveling with kids, specially if it will take a few hours or a long drive before reaching your destination.

Traveling is a very fulfilling and a fun activity to most of the kids. To fully enjoy it, we have to know some of the things that we should be alert, avoid, and prepare as parents or guardians to avoid tantrums and eliminate stress along the way!

It’s our responsibility as parents to make sure that they are comfortable along the road. Below are the tips that we should do to have a good and enjoying trip with our kids!

Make sure to:

Prepare your child’s personal kit. If you have 2 or more, it’s better to provide each of them. It should include your child’s extra clothing, towelette and other hygiene essentials like toothbrushes, toothpastes, soap, alcohol, powder, wipes, tissue paper etc. (Based on how long you would stay to your destination).
Don’t forget to bring a first aid kit, their vitamins, over the counter medicines for possible headache, vomiting and stomach aches that are commonly occurring problems during travel.
Bring some foods that are energy boosting such as bread, biscuit crackers and fruits, avoid too much sweet and salty foods, choose non-greasy tidbits and non-acidic drinks that may bring about gastrointestinal concerns, nausea, and vomiting. Don’t forget to bring drinking water for hydration.
Bring umbrella for sun or rain protection in case the place you are about to visit is sunny or rainy.
Check your car engine, and make sure that the one who will drive your car gets enough rest or sleep before the travel to avoid any accidents that are brought by sleepiness and tiredness, remember that kids are with you.

How to avoid boredom and moodiness while on the road?

Keep them active by offering them energy boosting foods and water.
Listen to their queries.
Ask them if they are comfortable, if they want to use a comfort room (pass urine or anything else). You can stop over to do so. Most gasoline stations and food establishments have it.
Explain to them the importance of your travel.
Let them enjoy the nature’s view.
Tell them the names of the places that you see along the road! Specially if it’s something historical or something for the kids to learn about.
Tell short stories that could engage your kids into a conversation.

So, these are the tips when traveling with kids. I hope that it could help you achieve a better, enjoying and a knowledge gaining trip that could fulfill the different aspects of your child’s life, specially socially and intellectually.

Birthday ideas for kids at home

June 16, 2021March 26, 2024 by MJMCM ♥ 1 Comment

Having a hard time planning your child’s birthday at home? Read this post! It will tackle about birthday ideas and how to make your child’s birthday memorable and special, even with just a simple celebration!

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A birthday is a special day set for every person to remind him/her of his existence here on Earth, and it’s a day that we should celebrate and be joyous about. Though it is celebrated differently, one thing for sure is that it is significant to the ones who are celebrating it, specially for kids! They loved to celebrate their birthdays because it is very precious to them, they want to feel special, to enjoy and have fun!

As parents, it is a very fulfilling emotion if you can be able to provide that happiness on the day of your child’s birthday! Consider these birthday ideas for kids at home:

Plan your child’s birthday celebration together. It is important to ask your child’s plans and opinions about how he/she would like to spend his/her birthday.
Listen to the child’s ideas and wishes, and be able to speak with him/her about it. If you can grant your child’s wishes for his/her birthday, don’t hesitate to give it. Otherwise, if you can’t give it, just talk to your child and come up with simple and practical alternatives that he/she would still appreciate.
Buy his/her favorite thing or toy and wrap it with a gift wrapper. Kids love to open a gift! It’s a surprise that would make them feel special!
Include his/her favorite food in your menu. Eating is a part of the celebration! Be sure that your child would enjoy the foods on the table, to make him/her feel energized all throughout the day.
Buy a birthday cake or bake one if you are able, and give a short and sweet message for your child. It’s a special part of the celebration, wherein the child will blow his/her cake after making birthday wishes.
Decorate your wall with banners and balloons. Kids love to see decorations, include a happy birthday words with his/her name.
Ask for video greetings from people who matter to your child. It could be closed relatives, classmates or friends, and don’t forget to add yours too.
Sing a birthday song loudly and happy. Your energy is important in singing this special song because it also adds to the energy of the celebrant.
Take pictures and videos as remembrance. It’s a good idea to save some of these remembrance so that you and your child would have something to look back as time goes by.

A little effort for our child’s birthday counts as a big gift already that he/she would treasure.

So that’s it! Hopefully it could help you plan your child’s next birthday celebration that could make him/her the happiest person that day!

A mother’s endless love

May 9, 2021March 26, 2024 by MJMCM ♥ 3 Comments

We really can’t explain a true mother’s love, until we experienced it by ourselves. Everything changes, our goals, and dreams aren’t just ours anymore! A selfless mother is a woman who can sacrifice, she is willing to give up her personal dreams just to see her child/children rise and shine! She can give you a lot of care and affection, starting when you were young, until you’ll become an adult and a parent too. She will always be there to guide and make it sure to direct your way whenever you needed it. That’s why in return you should respect her, love and take good care of her too.

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Forgive her whenever she got angry, forgive her if she’s in a bad mood, if she scolds you, and forgive her for not being the ideal mom you ever wish her to be.

She is a mother who will always believe in you, she may not be perfect, she makes mistakes, she forgets things, she loses temper, and some days aren’t just good enough! But trust me, she loves you very much! Understand her because she has many things to do, and to think about also, aside from taking care of you and the household.

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A mother’s love is different from one mom to the other, but most moms can turn their attention and affection to their children, and making them away from life’s interests, hobbies, material things etc. Which sometimes some people can’t understand why. It’s a sacrificial love, it’s something beyond compare, and it’s something that out of the so-called unconditional love.

Time flies so fast! Fulfill your mom’s heart too, similar to how she fulfills yours. Give her time and honor the love and sacrifices that she had given you, whoever she is! She is a great mom.

Being a good mom is learning about the things, strengths, and capabilities which you didn’t realize you can, and dealing with fearful things which you didn’t know you could overcome!

Effective ways to better deal with your toddler to avoid stressful moments

January 19, 2021March 26, 2024 by MJMCM ♥ 0 Leave a Comment

Having a toddler child is really challenging, but very fun! Some says that it’s a roller coaster, it’s hard, it requires a lot of attention and time, but I think it’s more on how you handle, treat and manage your toddler’s activities and change in attitude. A toddler does countless plays, curiosities, noises, and witty actions that makes every house lively and happy!

Effective ways to better deal with your toddler to avoid stressful moments:

Be consistent and establish a daily routine so that your child knows what to expect. If you plan to change your routine, make sure to introduce it one by one.
When you have things to do at home, make sure to do it when your child isn’t likely to be hungry or tired.
Let your child make appropriate choices. Allow your child to choose what he or she wants, but of course make sure that it won’t bring any harm.
Avoid saying no to everything because it lowers their self-esteem. Keep in mind that they are in the stage of self exploration.
Praise good behavior to help your child grow with the right attitude that every parent would like to see.
Avoid situations that are likely to trigger your child’s tantrums.
Toddlers are normally interested in touching everything, so if there are valuables and fragile things in your home that you don’t want them to handle, hide or remove it from their sight.
Most importantly, show them love, attention and lots of care.

Helpful tips on how to manage sibling rivalry and to promote good relationship among them

January 16, 2021March 26, 2024 by MJMCM ♥ 0 Leave a Comment

No matter how your kids are playing together and no matter how they bond during playtime, let’s face the fact that there are things or situations wherein they come to the point of having misunderstandings and disagreements.

A sibling rivalry occurs when there is jealousy, fighting, and competition between children, and it’s really a big concern for parents that shouldn’t be taken for granted. As parent, you have to fix things right so that they won’t grow with the idea of competing to their younger or older brother and sister because it may develop into personality problems later on. Sibling rivalry is normal, but it can become a concern if handled wrongly by parents.

But what causes this?

A child is developing and finding ways to define them as an individual. When they feel that they are getting unequal and undivided attention from their parents, and they see that it is more given to their brother or sister, they will form the idea of competing for your attention. It also happens before a new baby is coming, wherein they feel threatened by the arrival of their sibling. So, before the new baby is born, you should explain and reassure them that equal love and attention will be provided for them.

Here are helpful tips on how to manage sibling rivalry:

Don’t compare your children in front of them because it will embarrass them and their self-esteem will be affected.
Make them feel important and treat them as a unique person or individual.
Teach and allow your older child to help in caring younger brother or sister, this is done through your supervision.
Help your children to have a healthy sibling relationship, teach them to play without quarrelling and educate them the importance of sharing.
Never show favoritism, be calm and objective when disciplining them.
Come up with basic rules, for example: no bullying and fighting, approach mom or dad if something is wrong.
Never blame or punish, be objective rather than subjective, and be able to solve their problem in a good way.
At an early age, teach them already how to be a good brother or sister and inculcate positive life views for them to do what is always right.

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