Being nice is a pleasant thing that will give you fulfillment and will bring numerous benefits to your body. But the question is do you consider yourself a good person? A good person will do what is right and what is acceptable. But of course, it should always be beyond control. A problem will occur if you do it too much!

What does it mean by being too nice?

• People are already manipulating you.
• You are already being abused for your kindness and generosity.
• You already have a guilt feeling regarding telling someone that they hurt you, and as a result, you prefer not to react to avoid losing them.
• Furthermore, you keep worrying about being liked by someone or everyone else.
• You’re becoming the so-called people pleaser.
• You are already acting like buying friends or people to come into your life, that’s why you’re giving whatever they wanted.

Signs of a people pleaser:

• You always agree, and you apologize too much.
• Always double-check every detail to avoid missing out.
• You are too affected by someone’s feelings and emotions.
• You’re becoming overly humble.
• Imitating actions just to fit with other people.
• You always agree and say yes, even you’re not amenable.
• You love to be liked by everyone, even to those you don’t like.
• Telling white lies just to impress somebody.

Remember that being too nice could bring some self-neglect, you are already neglecting the things that matter in your life because you are busy providing everyone’s needs and wants, that they should do and find a way out themselves.

Note: You’re not responsible for anyone’s feelings and emotions.

Here are bad things that might happen if you’re too nice:

• Being too nice can also affect you.
• If you are always giving, some people will be used to it, and they will expect that from you always.
• You will develop false expectations from other people.
• Some people will come to you whenever they need something.
• You will develop a fear of rejection and will have difficulty accepting judgment.
• Being too nice can lead you to self-crisis. What does this mean? Being present in someone else lives all the time contributes to losing the sense of who you are.

What can you do about it?

• Do what makes you feel good, build yourself.
• Give yourself time.
• Identify your goals and make them happen.
• Avoid toxic and negative people.
• Stop overthinking, and overanalyzing every situation.

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