Month: July 2022

Helpful ways to develop your children without pressuring them

Helpful ways to develop your children without pressuring them

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In the last content, we deal with the dangers of putting too much pressure on children. Now we will tackle about 3 helpful ways to develop your children without the need to pressure them. This helps to free you and your child from stress. Enables more love and compassion with your child while giving the whole family better mental and emotional well-being.

Ways to develop children without the need to pressure them.
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Here are the helpful ways to develop your children without pressuring them:

1. Encourage and praise your child

  • Encourage your child to do his/her best. You have to be mindful that you should focus on the process rather than focusing on your desired result. Encouragement will help children to learn how to evaluate themselves in their little ways. Whenever adults give feedback about what the children are doing, they learn to appreciate themselves without the need to compare their efforts to other children.
  • Usually, our initial response when our children did something well is to say something regarding their efforts, we praise them for a job well done. Praising our children the right way builds their confidence and sense of self. They feel worthy and encouraged to continue achieving better performance. When we praise our children we are helping them to think and talk about good things that they have to see in them.
  • Words can leave a profound meaning on human behavior and we have to know that children are sensitive about it. They naturally loved hearing words that are good to hear. In that case, we have to be sensitive to whatever words we tell them. It might build them or tear them apart.
  • Imparting courage to our children teaches them to recognize whenever they do well in their activities and makes them feel proud of what they achieved.

2. Give the right information and guide them on the right information.

  • The information made by people like our teachers, parents, siblings, and friends, from other sources like television, the internet, and books must be guided. As parents, we have to know how to elicit positive information from negative ones.
  • Give the right information that our children can use as they grow older. Teach children about their personal information, proper attitude, and behavior. Give them information about the importance of good manners, healthy food selections, time management, and decision-making.
  • In giving them the right information, we have to be patient, warm, and responsive to whatever questions they might raise. Remember that a good relationship with our children is one way to help them achieve a happy and successful life.
  • They will love learning if you love imparting helpful information to them. They will used to it until they seek it themselves already. Well-informed children are more likely to face any challenges with confidence.

3. Communicate with your children.

  • You have to talk to your child about a certain goal that he/she is working on. Children often thrive with healthy communication that is filled with compassion and honesty.
  • Allow your child to express his/her emotions. Listening to our children when they talk boosts their self-worth. It enables them to feel that their words are important or valuable.
  • If ever they have bad days, you must listen to them with interaction. It will encourage them rather than feeling that they disappointed you in some ways.

Thank you so much for reading! If you have any comments or something to share regarding this topic don’t hesitate to leave them in the comment section. If you found this post helpful, please don’t forget to share it with other people!

Dangers of putting too much pressure on children

Dangers of putting too much pressure on children

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Some parents want their child or children to achieve the best that they can be. This isn’t bad if accompanied by proper guidance and by means of not pressuring the child too much in achieving something. Because too much pressure that parents give on their children can also put too much pressure on their child’s performance. Unknowingly that putting too much pressure can have serious consequences for their child’s welfare too.

The dangers of putting too much pressure on children, and the negative consequences of it.
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Some parents have this thinking that putting pressure on their children will lead to their children’s success. This is caused by their intense desire for a successful future. The sad thing is that there are parents who are trying to fulfill their dreams which they strived for once in their life, that they pass through their children.

Parents who are focusing too much on the academic performance and extracurricular activities of their child are limiting the importance of other skills that a child can achieve on their own. Constant pressure on children can be harmful and there are negative effects that a child might experience later on in their life.

Below are some dangers of putting too much pressure on children:

1. Higher rates of experiencing the mental related condition.

  • Children who are under constant pressure also experience constant anxiety. The countless stress that they feel places them at higher risk of depression, mood or behavioral problems, and other mental health conditions.

2. Higher risk for injuries

  • Children who are pressured to do well in physical activities for example sports might choose to continue participating despite an injury. Continuing the sport with unhealed injury could lead to further problems or permanent damage.
  • The same is true with children who are pressured to study well for an exam and might choose to read for long hours without rest. This may lead to eye strain. Eye strain is defined as a common condition that occurs to an individual when his/her eyes get tired from intense use.

3. They might involve themselves in cheating

  • They are likely to cheat if you are pressuring them to focus on what they should achieve rather than what they should learn. Because they feel like they are obliged to do well or perform well, and that they might think that they will disappoint you or that they will receive a punishment for not doing well.

4. They refuse to join or participate in a competition

  • When your child believes that they should always be the best, they will not likely participate in a competition. It’s because they feel like they won’t win or shine at that moment. This brings problems to children as they won’t take chances to improve their skills. They won’t take the chance to enjoy themselves with other children of their age.

5. Damaging their self-confidence

  • Pressuring your children to make their best can be harmful in developing their self-confidence. The stress that they feel to perform well could interfere with building their identity, it will lead them to feel or think that they aren’t good enough.

6. Poor nutrition

  • Pressuring can also affect a child’s nutrition because they might tend to skip or be in a hurry to finish their meals just to spend additional time studying.

7. Depriving themselves of proper sleep and rest pattern

  • Children who are always pressured to do well might stay up late because of too much studying or practicing, this leads them to struggle in getting enough sleep and rest that children of their age needs.

Motivation takes the child to concentrate or focus on his/her journey to success. On the other hand, too much pressure makes the child sacrifice their play and join some recreational activities or entertainment because they want to spend more hours learning. This is immense stress which affects the child’s normal mental development. The emotional adjustment that a child is experiencing at a very young age may result in problems like that of interpersonal relationships with parents.

If proper guidance is given rather than too much pressure then the child is more likely to embrace success.

Thank you so much for reading! If you have any comments or something to share regarding this topic don’t hesitate to leave them in the comment section. If you found this post helpful, please don’t forget to share it with other people!

Uplifting every woman is a mighty thing, here’s why!

Uplifting every woman is a mighty thing, here’s why!

by MJMCM ♥ 3 Comments

Don’t whisper because you have a voice!

Reason why uplifting every woman is a mighty thing.
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There are times when women are stressing themselves because of their life’s challenges, personal goals, family relationships, or finding a balance in life. Some women find it beneficial to voice it out or ask for opinions. But some women keep it with them, they choose silence over talking it out, because they don’t want that they would look weak to someone else. Common things which these women needed are words of inspiration, motivation, encouragement, and support, as these can do wonders for them!

Every woman needs someone who can be there when she is striving from pain, loneliness, loss, fear, failure, and regression. Every word of encouragement matter a lot, each appreciation is guaranteed to be helpful, and a simple yet genuine smile means hope that these women can hold on to go through.

Inspiring words, a pearl of thoughtful wisdom, and caring hearts are factors in helping these women achieve their full potential.

Sometimes you can’t even recognize what’s in their minds, what’s in their hearts, what they are longing for, and what they might want in life. They want this and not that, but they don’t have any option. Who would care to help understand them when they are in doubt? When they are in trouble or feel uneasy? Who would dare to listen to their worries when they are afraid, who would uplift their mood when they are down?

They can do more, they can do better. Help them to reach what they might achieve.

Unfortunately, some women feel weak because there’s a lack of support. There is minimal encouragement to raise their self-confidence. And the sad thing is that they choose to accept their hopelessness. They choose to be simple, they don’t continue to develop themselves or achieve simple goals for themselves because of the fear of rejection, because of manipulative people, because of people who would always want to see somebody below their level. They continue living day by day as it is! And it consumes them.

Uplifting every woman is a mighty thing!

Every woman is important because she is very essential for everybody’s development. She can greatly impact every family, community, and country as a whole. If a woman can live peacefully, safely and with a sense of purpose, then she could also achieve a sense of fulfillment in each day of her life. This will help her to show what she can do. This can greatly contribute to honing her skills that she can use to help raise happy and healthier children, a loving family, and an improved community and society.

The roles of women in society are very important concerning health and wellness. Some sociologists claim that women make numerous decisions that determine the participation of the whole household in the community. This includes education, healthcare, and socio-cultural decisions. Women can use the knowledge that they gained from the household decisions to take part in the future of society and any activities that need their ability such as planning outreach programs, forming associations, and support groups for the people of the community where she belongs.

The benefits of playing blocks to children

The benefits of playing blocks to children

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Benefits of block play to children.

Blocks are play materials that come from solid pieces which children used to build different shapes and structures depending on what comes into their imagination at the time of playing.

Block play is a process of learning through playing blocks, be it in smaller or bigger sizes. It is also defined as open-ended play, meaning that there are no rules that are needed to follow and that children are fully in control of the activity. It promotes imaginative and constructive play in children.

Block play doesn’t require a lot of adult supervision as compared to other activities that you can offer to children while at home. As a parent, you can also benefit from this play. They are busy playing while you can continue to do important tasks at home.

Block play is a good activity that can give a lot of benefits to our children.

Lately, my two kids are having fun with this activity and I can see that there are really good benefits to it. With blocks they can do sorting, counting, building up a tower or village, fill in blocks according to shapes and colors, representations, pattern making, create imaginative animals, vehicles, etc.

Below are the benefits of playing with blocks for children:

  • It helps them to be self-reliant, they rely on their capability to create something. And are very happy when they complete a simple structure that they want to build. It uplifts their mood and therefore increases their self-confidence.
  • Block play helps with their communication skills. When they play with other children, they tend to talk or communicate about the structure that they are building or are about to build. They also ask their playmates what they are building, and will share ideas as to how to make it more beautiful.
  • Helps them develop friendships by helping each other in finishing their creation.
  • Increases their attention span, they learn how to be patient and kind as they stay in constructive play for an extended time or until they finish building their preferred structure.
  • Helps them to be cooperative with their playmates. They learn to collaborate with their playmates through building block structures together. They learn how to take turns and share materials needed by each other.
  • Teaches them about balance. They learn to make way on how to avoid falling off their structure.
  • It helps them mathematically. Through block play they gain some understanding of 3D shapes, counting blocks as they add or eliminate from the structure that they are making. Helps them learn how to describe shapes, colors, positions, and sizes as they build different structures. They also explore measure, symmetry, and different patterns.
  • Ideal play to improve a child’s cognitive development. They are building their cognitive skills by simply sorting, designing, and stacking different towers.
  • It supports our child’s development in terms of social skills, creativity, and abstract thinking. They are creative in doing role-playing or storytelling about their output.
  • Improves their fine motor skills, for example in positioning and manipulating blocks precisely.

Block play is already known for its simplicity and self-directed play to motivate children to take action according to their will.

They are a good idea to entertain children, making them busy while learning how to create something. But take note that even though block play is a less supervised activity for kids as mentioned, it doesn’t mean we have to be complacent or we can already leave them for long hours without supervision. We still need to look after them from time to time to make sure that they are in a good condition.

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