Month: September 2022

Things to say never to achieve mental health and improve your life

Things to say never to achieve mental health and improve your life

by MJMCM ♥ 2 Comments

Are there times when you feel like you are mentally exhausted and feel like you have a low battery and appetite to continue the day, your goals, and dreams in life? Oh! You might be drained from unnecessary thoughts that could weaken your sensations. These can affect how you view life, and how you handle each day of your life.

The pressures of modern living often mean that people lose touch with their true selves and end up feeling unhealthy, unhappy and out of balance.

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One way to limit and stay away from this troubling feeling is to say never to things that could make your mental health suffer!

Take a look at some things which you should say never from now on to achieve mental health and improve your life…

Say never again to these things that affects your mental health.
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  • Never mind about people who don’t trust your capabilities. Sometimes we feel hopeless when we observed that some people don’t trust us in doing the things that we feel like we can do. If you have goals then go with them, you don’t have to ask for someone’s opinion if they only degrade you in some ways. The only person whom you can lean on at times when you feel like nobody even care is yourself. There’s no dream that is too big or impossible to achieve. You can do it in your little ways. Forget about the feeling that troubles your mind and makes you always step back from the crowd.
  • Never give people a reason to disrespect you. You have the right to be respected, whoever you are. You have the voice to say something, go say it! Sometimes people are disrespecting you because you choose to let it pass, you choose to ignore it and not to tell something. If you are allowing them to do it to you then there’s a possibility that it will happen again and again.
  • Never allow any person to define your worth and value negatively. You have your worth, no one in this world has no value. You can do numerous things, you can give meaning to your life and you can as well serve as a role model for others to take inspiration to. You don’t need to prove to someone else that you are worthy, you alone can do that for yourself. Claim that you too can do something out of this super fast-paced environment.
  • Never chase toxic and negative people. Sometimes negative emotions are ruining your life because you are connecting or chasing toxic people. Who are they? They are the negative thinkers, they are the great gossipers, they are the bullies, and they are the people who always feel happy each time they see others who are failing. And whom should you connect with? They are the people who have a positive mindset, the people who are happy seeing others’ success, those people who will lift you, those people who have positive vibes, and those people who want you to grow and develop.
  • Never allow people to choose what you should be doing in life. Sometimes because of continually listening to what others are saying about what you should do and what you should not do, you tend not to be comfortable with what you want, what you desire, and what direction you are going. It lowers your self-esteem which makes you indecisive in pursuing what you like.
  • Never take your loved ones for granted. Your loved ones are your cheerleaders! They are your comfort when you are in pain. They are your strengths when you feel weak and they are the people who would be there after a long and tiring day. Your loved ones are the people with whom you can share the most days of your lives, that’s why they should be the ones you should share enough attention with.
  • Never be afraid of failure. One thing that keeps us from stepping forward is our fear of failure. It comes from self-doubt and low self-confidence. Sometimes it comes from what if people will laugh at me when I fail? It comes from what if I can’t do it? And it comes from what if they don’t support me? One thing we should realize in life is that we are all unique. And that’s why there are times that you feel you are different from others. It’s not a thing that should make you step back, it should be something you should be proud of. Those people who don’t trust you are not the people for you. Don’t root from them.
  • Never stop believing in yourself. Sometimes we are bothered by why we don’t excel and we are bothered by why we can’t change the way we want things to be! It’s because we don’t believe in ourselves. If you believe that there must be something that you can do or you should do in this limited time on Earth, then do it!

Realizing the things that we should never do are the key to lightening up how we handle our daily life.

What is mommy burnout and how to deal with it?

What is mommy burnout and how to deal with it?

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This post will help mommies to better understand what is mommy burnout, what’s going through them, the symptoms of mom burnout, and how to deal with it.

Mommy burnout is the feeling that makes a mom feel exhausted from the chronic stress of parenting or running the house on a daily basis.

Just like the burnout that employees went through with the high demands of work that they experience at their jobs. Moms also experience this scenario in their lives due to the daily activities that they also have to perform. Such as looking after their children, assisting the children in school activities, serving the whole family from morning to evening, doing household chores, organizing and managing the house, and so on. And what is left for them?

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Sometimes they even don’t have the time to do their endeavors in life. Sometimes people even think that they are just acting out. Misjudging them from what they feel and what they do at home. There are also times that they can no longer do some self-care activities due to the overwhelming tasks that they need to make.

Both working and stay-at-home moms are experiencing mom burnout symptoms from time to time. And this isn’t something that moms and family members have to ignore because it adds up and might lead to other problems if left unmanaged. Moms experiencing burnout often show disengagement, feeling inefficient or useless in raising their children, feeling ineffective, losing the confidence to socialize, they feel intimidated to perform their personal and professional duties and may act outside of their true personalities. Like being angry at small things and losing patience easily compared to normal days. And they sometimes think of spacing themselves among their children.

Mommies are great human beings and needs also your attention, love, and care.

General symptoms of mommy burnout that you should watch out for:

If there are numerous symptoms you already identified to yourself as a mom or to other moms you know, you should ask for help earlier to implement the needed intervention.

  • Being exhausted mentally, emotionally, and physically.
  • Being irritated, they easily loss temper.
  • They feel disconnected from the present situation.
  • They show guilt about their parenting style. They feel like they are inadequate.
  • They feel anxious, and preoccupied with approaching events.
  • Their attitude isn’t matching with the present situation.
  • They feel incapacitated in raising their children.
  • They indulge in fantasies like detaching themselves from reality.
  • Having an intense feeling of being not good enough.
  • Thoughts that their children deserve someone better.
  • Disconnection from spouse or inability to maintain a good relationship.
  • Unable to ask for help or support.

What to do with Mom Burnout:

  • Understanding your risk factors are important to help you to be aware of everything.
  • Avoid comparing yourself. Remember that other moms have their ups and downs as well. And it’s up to you how you will face each challenge.
  • Do journaling to better track your mood, and see whether you already need some time to replenish your mental health.
  • Offer yourself time alone. You need to spend some time alone each day to give yourself the love it deserves. The person who will love you without a doubt (you). Do a simple self-care activity that will boost your self-esteem.
  • Choose to be a mindful parent. It’s ok to make some mistakes, accept it as this will help you grow as a parent. No one is perfect and everyone passes through all the tough times of parenting.
  • Talk to someone who can relate to you. Talking to a mom that knows what you are going through can be a good help in understanding what you feel, this can give you comfort and relief from stress.
  • Do some physical activities. Moving around just like brisk walking can help to relieve your stress level and uplift your mood.
  • Have enough rest and sleep to recharge you.
  • Do things one at a time. Plan your day always, prioritize what should come first, and divide tasks from simpler to complex.
  • Engage in a group that can help you unleash your capabilities. Connecting with like-minded people can help you grow as a person.
  • Accept your imperfections as a parent. It’s ok if you can’t do it all. Be kind to yourself.
  • Grow spiritually and always make sure that your values are set as a good example and are aligned with what you want your children to follow.

Mom burnout is something that needs our intervention. If you believe that you have a lot of symptoms already, then you should take the necessary action to pass through it. You can do a lot of things to go on in life. Live simply, don’t stress out everything, and live one day at a time. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help if you feel like you need it the most.

A virtual hug to all of you amazing moms!

A child’s view of life: A must view of life

A child’s view of life: A must view of life

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Weekends are children’s favorite because it means leisure time with the family!

Going outside to eat, do some sightseeing. Eat meals, and of course, what they love above all is playing different types of games and having fun! It’s their way of life, to enjoy each moment with greatness in their hearts!

View of life

Some of us think that kids are the only appropriate people to do these things.

Because they are young and because we have already gone through these days. We sometimes think that it isn’t for us anymore because doing it will gonna make us look childish. And we hold on to being mature in how we view life. We often don’t realize that we can still enjoy these moments. And feel like a child as if every day is a fun day! And live like a child who doesn’t worry too much about life’s situations and challenges.

We often see them fearless to do something because they want to try what it feels like. We see them enjoy good food and stumble with joy whenever we bought something that they like so much. Their view of life is very simple but overflowing with priceless appreciation. We see their genuine laughs as if they don’t bother anything. They easily forget situations that once made them upset, move on and continue enjoying the moment. And they choose to live life as if they have unlimited time.

What if we imitate the way they view life?

As adults, we feel like we should make even faster in life. This is because of the fear that we are being left behind. Time runs so fast that we feel like we are being unproductive. Well, who would even love the life that isn’t moving? Who would even love a life that feels no growth. And who would even love a life where you felt like you are moving like a turtle on a lonely seaside?

Honestly, we want to improve ourselves, we want to be appreciated, we want to feel important, and we want to be useful.

And adult stage makes us feel like we should fear if we aren’t doing any progress because time is important to us now, and time cannot go back once gone. How many years would still be there? How many chances can we still get? And how many fun moments could we still share with our loved ones?

Rushing can push us towards our goals, but it could also mean that rushing can only alter what we should have to do. Things could be better if it is done with preparation. Don’t rush too much because time isn’t your enemy, make time as your friend who can prepare you to do the things that will equip you towards something that will serve your purpose. View life like a child who doesn’t afraid to fail and try again. View life like a child who would smile after an upsetting scenario. And view life like a child who dreams even the most impossible!

There are times that life is like a carousel, it can move you up and down, steady, slow and fast. But whatever life could bring, you should remind yourself not to be bothered by the challenges that you meet along the way. There are tough moments but remember that it always ends.

Sometimes, life is like a ball and if you aren’t willing to move it, it will just stay where it was. We are here on Earth to live each day, and we shouldn’t just let the day pass without living it because of our grudges, anxiety, fear, and hopelessness.

Our success is not measured by the material things that we bought. It’s not the awards that we achieved. It’s not the title that attaches to our name. But, it’s the happiness that glows within us. It’s the values that we have and the kindness we were able to impart to other people.

Viewing life like a child is not a childish thing to do. It’s something that will make us live the way we should.

Guide for parents who have school children

Guide for parents who have school children

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Studying in a school environment has good benefits for our children. Interacting with other children of their age, learning how to follow rules and regulations, figuring out how to socialize with other people, and adjusting to different situations are just a few of the things that our children would learn outside our home premises. And that’s the reason why a lot of us parents would prefer a school set-up learning.

School children
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But, to be able to fully help our children unleash their full potential we have to assist them in going to school and guide them in all their school activities. While this may sometimes make us overwhelmed due to other life activities that we have to do, just remember that we are making it for the future of our child or children.

The guidance and support that we were able to show and give to them daily mean so much to them. This could help them to be more confident in going to school because they have the ample support they needed.

Things to let them know:

  • Reminding them of the importance of going to school, meeting their classmates and teachers, and of course studying in a school environment.
  • Tell them the relevance of social connection to their well-being. Socializing with other people, most importantly to children of their age can help them to show what they are capable of, and it helps them to relate to different individual’s attitudes.
  • Inform them about the rules and regulations of their school. Before the school classes, institutions come up with the orientation phase. So, here they enumerate all the rules and regulations that their school is implementing.

Things to prepare for them:

  • The night before the school day, you should prepare their clothing or uniform, socks, shoes, hygiene essentials, and their school bag with books, notebooks, and other things needed for that day.
  • If you are the one who prepared their things in their bag, be sure to let them know where the specific things are located.
  • Inform them of their class schedule and important activities that they will be going to do or perform for that day.
  • Remind them to participate in their class discussion, respect everybody in their school and enjoy studying!

During the day:

  • Prepare a healthy breakfast for your child and let them eat before going to school. Eating breakfast can help to kickstart their day by providing the essential nutrients they needed to have a strong body and an alert mind.
  • Prepare healthy snacks that they can eat during their break time in school, and choose nutritious foods to energize and nourish their body.
  • Don’t forget their water. Drinking water will keep them hydrated throughout the day.

After their class:

  • Greet them with a happy face, and ask what happened in their class. Assessing their mood will help us figure out what the child had experienced in school.
  • Ask about how the child gets along with classmates, and how he performed in their class activities.
  • Check whether the child ate the snacks you prepared.
  • Check any assignments that they have for tomorrow’s class, and remind the child to make them ahead of time.

Allow your child to make their assignments so that they could build their confidence in solving different circumstances. We are only allowed to guide and assist them. And it won’t give any merits if we are the ones doing it for them.

Going to school must be a fulfilling activity that our children must experience and they can do it by providing them with their essential needs, ample support, and giving time to improve their skills.