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The power to kick out limiting beliefs

The power to kick out limiting beliefs

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What is your superpower? Do you have one? You may ask, what are you talking about I’m a human!

We often overlooked it but yes we all have powers within us. It may not be like the heroes or heroines that we watch on TV, but there are things that we are capable of, and that fill the power within us. Sometimes we feel so powerless, that we can’t get things the way others do them. We can’t do things the way others easily make them. And these make us feel numerous emotions that can lead to the draining of energy, avoiding doing things, and losing patience.

Limiting beliefs

What makes us powerless are the limiting beliefs that keep running into our heads.

That keeps controlling our life, and that makes us miss out on important details that we must know and do in life. We can do more, but we choose to limit ourselves because of our what-ifs.

  • What if I failed?
  • What if others won’t support me?
  • What if others will laugh at me?
  • What if it won’t work?
  • What if it’s not for me?

They are just what-ifs!

Imagine if you transform that what if into words and thoughts that could make you realize that there is something more important to think about instead of those negative ones? Then there is something waiting for you! That something can be a new source of information, experiences, and things to focus on.

  • Thinking of failure is just a waste of time, you better tell yourself that you can do it and whatever the outcome is, you will accept it. Failures are a part of life experiences and what makes this challenging journey of living are those challenges that we courageously faced.
  • There are times wherein we feel that we are being unsupported by the people we are connected with. Whatever the reason behind it, think of it as a challenge to stand on your own. You cannot force others to support you because they have their perception of how to view things. They have their struggles and things to do also in life. Tell yourself that being unsupported won’t ruin you from getting into your goals.
  • Other people might find your views in life, abilities, capabilities, or talents to be funny because of their uniqueness but, be sure not to be affected by them. You are not accountable for what they think or feel either. Your goals, decisions, and abilities aren’t for these people. So why bother at all? Countless people are waiting for it, some dreamers also dream about where you are right now or what you do. Continue the things which you believe can give you some growth, learning, and fulfillment day by day.
  • Things won’t work unless we do it. The reason why we don’t achieve the progress we want is that at the very start we already lose self-esteem. We already accepted our inabilities! When we say that we can’t do it, we don’t do the action. And there’s nothing to be done. But if you say that there are a lot of possibilities but you will do it whatever the outcome is, then you are taking an action.
  • Additionally, our thinking of what if it’s not for me is a negative prediction that most people are being trapped with. Predicting your fate this way can negatively impact your goals. Believing that it’s not for you will cause you not to take the necessary thing to do. What happens is that you continue to wander! And keep crawling in your comfort zone, which makes you unproductive.

Our beliefs in life serve as boundaries not to do unhealthy behaviors that can harm us. On the other hand, limiting beliefs holds us back each time we want to do something in life that could benefit us. Limiting beliefs that are negatively processed destroy our goals and aspirations in life. And it’s hurtful when you grow old that there are things that you should do when you were younger and still capable but chose not to do it.

Our limiting beliefs control our heads, it controls our actions, and it controls our life!

It may appear as an individual’s defense mechanism to protect themselves from possible failures, frustrations, and disappointments that they believed an action can bring to them when they do it. And it’s a bad thing if it came as an excuse or came out of fear.

How to overcome your limiting beliefs?

  • You have to Identify your limiting beliefs
  • Writing it down so that you become aware of it
  • Assess your limiting beliefs
  • Recognize if it’s negative or positive
  • If it’s a negative belief, challenge yourself to make it positive instead
  • Be aware of the damaging consequences of the limiting beliefs you are thinking
  • Make a new belief
  • Use positive self-affirmations
  • Take an action and never give up

Other examples of limiting beliefs that you might encounter:

  • Not being good enough
  • Too young to do things
  • Too old to do things
  • Don’t have ample time
  • Not being talented
  • Not smart enough to do it
  • Don’t have many experiences
  • Don’t have enough resources
  • Not great to do a certain thing

We are liable for our own decisions in life. And our way of thinking can greatly impact our future and fate. Don’t wait for the time because as they say NOW is the right time!

How to turn a negative mindset into a positive mindset?

How to turn a negative mindset into a positive mindset?

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Have you ever wished not to have negative thoughts at all? Are you tired of absorbing negativity around you? Well, this post will help you turn the negative mindset that you have now into a positive mindset that will be going to help you navigate your life in the right direction. Every one of us experiences negative thoughts from time to time, this is due to the numerous factors that are present around us.

Turning negative mindset to positive mindset.
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Now, let’s move into turning your negative thoughts into positive thoughts:

1. Instead of telling I can’t do this, tell yourself that you can do it!

  • Most of our failures in life are brought by our self-doubt. Telling that you can’t do a certain thing will most likely bring you nothing. Your perception and the way you view things for yourself can greatly impact how things will going to happen. Likewise, if you tell yourself that you can do it, you’ll likely achieve something, and your strong self-assurance will bring you to action.

2. Instead of telling yourself I don’t know, tell yourself I’ll find it.

  • While it’s true that we don’t know all the answers that life wants us to learn, we have all the will to find them for ourselves, how? By learning it, observing it, and doing it. You can learn by reading books, articles, and inspiring journals, you can use your observation skills to learn from other people, and you can find all the answers that running in your head if you give yourself a chance. A chance to explore the world with something worth living for.

3. Instead of telling yourself that it’s unfair and it’s too hard, tell yourself that it’s a challenge you have to conquer.

  • One thing that makes us stuck is that we treat problems as punishment, we see problems as unfair, and we feel that challenges are hardships that makes our life miserable. But if we treat problems as a way for us to grow and see problems as a challenge that we have to conquer then everything will come to its place. You aren’t just the person who is facing challenges, disappointments and misfortune so don’t be hard on yourself.

4. Instead of telling yourself that you’re worried and you might fail, tell yourself I’m curious about what will happen and I will try.

  • Our worries can affect our confidence, and low confidence drags our courage to take a step. A small step each day can build us one day at a time. No stepping back because it will just consume you little by little. Failures aren’t a reason to be fearful of everything, it might be painful but it’s a driving force that there is success above all of those circumstances. Just be willing to continue and enhance your abilities, learn from all the mistakes that brought some failures in your life, and strengthen yourself enough for the battle of life.

5. Instead of telling yourself that you’re not good at something, tell yourself that you can get better.

  • Always remember this, there’s nothing that you can’t learn if you are just willing to put an effort into it. Where do those successful people start? Where do those brilliant people start? They started from scratch, they started learning how to make it, and they started by believing that they can do it one day!

6. Instead of telling yourself that you’re not yet ready because you need to find out more, remind yourself that there’s no better time than now.

  • Procrastination is one of the distractions that can contribute to our unproductive life. Don’t be a victim of “I can do it later” because time won’t wait for you. We can’t take back time as much as all of us wanted. Laziness can make us stuck and it consumes the days that we should be doing something to improve ourselves.

7. Instead of telling yourself that you are too old of doing something, tell yourself it’s never too late.

  • Yes! Age isn’t a hindrance to achieving the dreams that you wanted in life. Take it as a strength because you’re mature enough to take on the goals that you wanted. The more you age the better your understanding of the complexity of life here on Earth. You are more courageous to take risks because you are already capable to value every detail of life.

Having a negative mindset can consume our hope and dreams if we don’t do ways to fix our thoughts and actions. The list above can help you turn those negative thoughts into positive thoughts and be able to have that mindset that will guide you to become a better version of yourself.

Ways to speak confidently in front of a group

Ways to speak confidently in front of a group

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Are you the person who isn’t comfortable with talking in front of people, even just in a small group?

Well, you are not alone! There are a lot of people out there who are going through this experience. It’s an uncomfortable feeling that can make our day a little awful. But, the good news is that you can do something about this! Being calm isn’t that easy especially when you are about to deliver a speech, report, research, final paper, lesson, etc. in front of people particularly if you aren’t used to it. The anxiety that a person feels is also caused by unrealistic expectations, inferiority, and unpreparedness.

Unrealistic expectations, such as expecting that your audience will be going to understand your lecture easily or they will agree with you every time you talk or say something will cause problems concerning the activity that you are about to do. Inferiority is a state wherein a person thinks that he/she is lower than those in front of him/her, this causes low self-esteem and will bring about the inability to deliver words effectively. Unpreparedness is a common cause of being uncomfortable speaking in front of a group. That’s why we have to be ready beforehand so that we can avoid possible circumstances that we don’t even want to happen.

Below are the steps to guide you to conquer this situation:

1. You have to assess your audience

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  • You can do this by knowing their educational background. Who is my audience? What is the appropriate topic that I can share with them? How will I deliver my topic? This will determine what content you can add up or deliver that will resonates with them.
  • Find out how knowledgeable they are about the lecture you are about to discuss. Your topic and the way you lecture it should be appropriate to your designated audience. Do I need to discuss this part of the topic further? Or will I jump up to the next?
  • Tell them the ways how the lecture will help them. Your audience wants to get something while spending their time listening to you. They might be those busy people who chose to listen and attend your presentation. So, don’t waste their time!
  • Give them reasons why it’s important to listen/pay attention to your lecture.
  • Give them incentives for attending your lecture, it could be giving away certificates of participation, snacks, or tokens.
  • Connect your topics to the real things that are happening around us to keep them interested. They will more likely to engage if they know that they can relate to your topic.

2. Think of something that can grab their attention.

Ways to speak confidently.
  • To be a great speaker, you have to engage or connect with your audience at the very start. You can do this by introducing yourself first, giving gratitude for their presence, and communicating to them through eye level. You can ask a question, mention a familiar event that is happening around us, giving a meaningful quote that is relatable to the presentation and that can motivate them to listen.
  • Find unique ways of keeping your presentation alive. No one would like to listen to a dull presentation that will only make them feel sleepy and unconnected.

3. Important notes should be taken down.

  • Write the important things to remember and detail them by using a good research explanation.
  • Use bullet points or numbers to guide you while speaking.
  • Make an effort to make your audience remember you.
  • Don’t stare too long at your PowerPoint or visual aids, interact with your audience.

4. Use valuable resources.

  • Make sure that the materials you will be using are functioning well before the presentation to avoid further problems. And you can also prepare a backup if necessary.

5. Use a desirable structure.

  • Write, plan and practice your lecture in a notebook or paper so that you can be able to see what is lacking.
  • There should be a beginning or introduction. Just like a written article, an introduction is a great way to give an overview of the content that you are about to discuss.
  • There should be a middle part or the body, it should be separated into small sections so that your audience can understand it easily. And to avoid information overload that could make it hard for them to grasp what you are saying. Keep it engaging, you can ask questions, and if they can’t answer back then answer them yourself. If they answer, you have to compliment them even though it’s not the perfect answer.
  • Moreover, there should be a final part that includes your conclusion of the overall lecture you’ve presented.

6. Remain calm in every stage of your presentation.

  • Be calm and control your anxiety, because your body language will greatly affect your speaking.
  • Be confident all the way and smile to relax your facial muscles.

Speaking in front of other people is a challenge, especially for those who have a shy type or an introverted personality. But it’s also a good challenge to do it and be able to cope with it. Hopefully, the above reminders and tips could help you go further.

Why will you choose nursing as a career path?

Why will you choose nursing as a career path?

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Reasons to choose nursing as a career path.

Choosing a career could be so overwhelming when you are about to enter your college days!

But aside from that, are also the pressure that you can get from your loved ones, friends, and other people around. They might have countless opinions and suggestions on what course you should be taking, but it should be all up to you. You should only base your final decision on yourself, from what you want, what you are passionate about, and what will make you happy!

Nursing is for those who have the calling to serve, care and contribute something to this noble profession. To serve its purpose is simply to be compassionate with your family, community, and society. Be able to contribute something with regards to improving someone’s life. It might be to work in a healthcare facility, provide health education to the public, serve patients, coach someone to reach his/her potential in life, or simply write articles that are related to health and wellness, that could help readers to get insights about the importance of health and life.

Nursing isn’t only inside the hospital, you don’t only find nurses at the patient’s bedside.

You cannot only find nurses in the different corners of the hospital like the operating room, out-patient department, emergency department, medical-surgical units, etc. Some people might think that nurses should only be found in the hospitals, and are not called nurses if they don’t. But definitely, it’s not! Once they became nurses they are forever nurses. They are still called nurses, even though you’ve seen them outside the hospital providing different types of specialty. Nursing as a profession is very flexible. It is also adaptable to change, but it’s up to you to figure out what you should be doing. And you should align it with the skills, abilities, interests, capabilities, and the current situation that you have.

So, why will you choose nursing as a career path? The following would guide you on this question:

  • Because it defines yourself, your values, and that you believe you can help the health industry. Be it by becoming a staff to a healthcare facility, becoming a health educator, or running an independent business that can have an impact on the healthcare system, etc.
  • Because nursing is a fulfilling profession. And you want to help and serve. It will not only help you grow professionally, but it will help you grow personally. It helps you grow further from your daily life activities.
  • Because you can make it as a stepping stone to further upgrade yourself, if you want to become a nurse leader and run your organization, your nursing profession is a good starting point to make it. But before doing that you have to finish your graduate school degree, like taking up a Master’s degree program to further equip you with knowledge.
  • Because there are numerous things that you can do about it. If you love taking care of individuals, you can be a bedside nurse working in a hospital. If you want to work in a corporate setting, you can be a company nurse. If you love working with kids, you can be a childcare nurse. If you love to educate, you can be a clinical instructor. If you love writing, you can be a nurse writer, etc.

Nursing is a profession that focuses on caring for an individual, family, and the community.

The goal is to provide optimal health and be able to provide a quality of life. That’s why, if you are interested in becoming a nurse, be mindful of what Florence Nightingale once said.

“Let us never consider ourselves finished, nurses. We must be learning all of our lives.”

Florence Nightingale

Nurses should have the urge to do something for themselves, for them to be more knowledgeable and to be more credible in delivering care to other people. Learning isn’t finished when you graduated with your college degree. Learning isn’t finished by the time you passed the licensure exam. And it’s not yet over when you are already in service! Embrace continuous learning to upgrade your knowledge of the current trends in the healthcare industry and be able to know what you can do to help in the development of the healthcare system.

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Reasons to study for a Master’s degree

Reasons to study for a Master’s degree

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Some of you might ask do I need a master’s degree. Why is he/she pursuing a master’s degree? Or why do some people need to get a master’s degree? What are the reasons for getting it?

Important reasons to study a master's degree.

A master’s degree is a graduate program that you can study after graduating with a bachelor’s degree. Schools offering a master’s degree also have different policies regarding admission, so if you are interested you have to inquire and see what is suitable for you to take.

The two main reasons for taking a master’s degree are your personal development and professional development.

  • Some people seek a master’s degree if they want to improve themselves.
  • They want to fill in a gap in their profession.
  • To upgrade their knowledge regarding the current trends that are happening inside their field.
  • They see themselves as future leaders in their field of expertise.
  • They have a goal of contributing something to their profession. Be it to enhance an existing program or to develop a new program that can be very beneficial to their profession.

A master’s degree will need you to shed amounts of money to pay for the school fees (the amount depends on the school where you will take it and what field you are taking), you also need money to buy essential needs which can greatly help with your study. You need more time to do all the coursework and attend the class so that you won’t feel behind your classmates. You need to put a lot of effort to study and research your subjects. And you must have the focus and determination to finish it.

Take a look at this list of general reasons why you should study for a master’s degree:

  • It will help you develop personally because it will enhance your skills that are also important in your daily life. What are these skills? These skills are your critical thinking skills, management skills, organizational skills, presentation skills, behavioral skills, and a lot more.
  • In a master’s degree, you will study in-depth theories, and write a paper and class presentation, these all can help you uplift your confidence because you’ve got to learn a lot of things that you needed in life.
  • It will help you to grow professionally because it enhances your knowledge about your field of expertise.
  • It strengthens your ability to become a leader or to manage a group of staff in your workplace or organization.
  • A master’s degree doesn’t only make you more knowledgeable in your field but it will also give you credibility. The passion you have for studying further makes others think that you are a credible person in your field.
  • It helps you to connect with like-minded individuals. Your classmates are a bit like you in terms of thinking. They are the people who are also interested to master a specialty in your field. They are the people who are looking to improve their career or they are the people who are finding their purpose in their profession.
  • A master’s degree would help you to look into what you can do with your profession, and what you can do for yourself.
  • Helps you to explore and create new things that you haven’t realized you can do.
  • It gives you a sense of purpose. It gives you a good reason to do something with your abilities and capabilities.
  • You become a lifelong learner because of your innate desire to improve yourself and contribute to your field.
  • It can greatly help you if you want to change your role, you can study for a master’s degree to help you push through to higher positions like being the leader of the organization where you belong or even running your own.
  • It will boost your career to a higher level. Because it adds up to your qualification. A higher qualification can also increase your chance of getting a higher position. And it means a higher salary.
  • People who have a master’s degree are said to be earning higher than those having a bachelor’s degree. It’s because of the roles they fulfill on the job.
  • Having a master’s degree helps you to become competitive. We are living in a fast-paced environment and it’s a good decision if you are taking ways to develop yourself even more.
  • It sharpens your skills in managing human relations, understanding your field, problem-solving, communication skills, leadership, management, writing, and researching abilities.

Whatever your reason to pursue a master’s degree, remember that you should be able to figure out something that can be useful to yourself and your field.

Studying for a master’s degree isn’t an easy thing, but all the hard work you are pouring into it will soon pay off. Just believe that you can make it. And remember this note from a man of wisdom ⬇️

An investment in knowledge pays the best interest.

– B. Franklin

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Tips to overcome self-doubt

Tips to overcome self-doubt

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Self-doubt is a normal feeling that we are going through especially when we are facing a new chapter of our lives, new scenarios, experiences, or situations.

Things to do if you are experiencing self-doubt.
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Self-doubt is characterized by being unsure of what to do or being unsure of the choices that we need to decide. This is an uncomfortable feeling but is manageable with a proper attitude and predisposition in life. Below are six ways that will gonna help you to overcome self-doubt.

1. Show more kindness to yourself.

If self-doubt is the reason why you are not making any improvement or progress in your life? You must remember that you are also human and as a human, you’re not perfect. It’s ok if you didn’t make it at the start, but take note that it shouldn’t lead you from thinking that you are already a failure. There are just moments that you won’t shine easily because it’s not yet your time. Give yourself unlimited kindness that you deserve because being kind to yourself means being patient to make improvements until you mature and until you reach where you wanna be.

Sometimes we are doubting ourselves because we are afraid to do it the wrong way. However, we have to remember that mistakes are ways for us to learn something, it’s a part of the experience that will greatly help us to improve and do the best that we can to make it the second time around. Showing more kindness and compassion to yourself is a good step in mitigating the self-doubt that you feel from time to time.

2. Be inspired to what you have become

Take your achievements from the past or present as your inspiration. Can you still remember the days that you are scared of doing or performing something but turned out well in the end because you choose to do it? Well, you will likely make it if you do the same action. A little push and courage are all you need to take that fearful step. When we face a challenging situation with courage and hard work, something great will happen! Just believe…

Don’t focus too much on past failures and be able to bear in mind that the present moment is a new day to start, take it as a new opportunity to do well.

3. Remember that you are unique.

Every one of us is unique, so even identical twins have differences in their ability, personalities, and behavior. This means that you must not compare yourself with anyone else. Being envious of somebody’s achievement is a thief of joy and a killer of a relationship. Control yourself and embrace your uniqueness. Build your path and see where this path will lead you.

4. Manage your thoughts.

There are times when we unconsciously indulge in negative thought processes because of what we see or hear from other people. Added by the societal expectations that drive people to race from each other, that make them think that life is a race or a competition. This leads to unhappiness, unsatisfied life, and an inability to focus well. But if we train ourselves to manage it consciously, we are training our minds to look at the brighter side. To think positively despite the circumstances that may come in our life.

5. Look for support

While there are people around you whom you can’t trust, there are still people whom you can lean on. These are your family and friends who are always there through ups and downs.

These people will help you shine through the darkness, and will give you the strengths you need to go through.

6. Know your values in life

Live a life that is aligned with your values in life. Realize how kind and patient you are to pass through the challenges that you encountered in life. The meaningful endeavors you’ve imparted to other people will help you gain the courage to avoid self-doubt.

Are you ready to overcome self-doubt? Answer the items 1 to 10 on Self-development guide questions.

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8 tips to have a better conversation

8 tips to have a better conversation

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Talking to someone can help you relieve anxiety, stress, and mood problems. Sometimes it’s true, but sometimes it isn’t.

Tips to have a better conversation.
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It’s true if the conversation is healthy, peaceful, and productive. It isn’t true if the conversation sounds boastful, envious, and purely negative talking about someone else life. If you aren’t comfortable with the scenario you better stop the conversation right away to avoid further conflict.

A healthy conversation should help you acquire learnings in life that you can use to guide your way through your life’s journey. It should be a time to share your ideas or opinions about a topic that could help you and the other person.

A few weeks ago, I experienced talking with different people, with different personalities and behaviors. And there are things that I learned a lot through our short conversations. And below I will share with you great tips that will help you to have a better conversation with anyone else.

1. Know the person whom you are talking with

  • Assess the personality, character, and behavior of the person you are about to converse with.

2. Remember that there is a right topic in every situation.

  • It means that you shouldn’t talk about things that are not meant to be shared with the person whom you are talking with. Topics that are valuable to share are the things that are related to your present scenario.

3. Think of a shared interest or topic

  • A shared interest or topic is something that will make your conversation alive and productive. Alive means you are enjoying your conversation because it is engaging to both of you. Productive means that both of you have something to gain from the topic that you are talking about.

4. Share your comments on what they say

  • If you have something to say, then say it. Don’t be ashamed or feel intimidated. It might be more helpful to share your comments than not. You might regret it later, thinking that you didn’t share valuable words.

5. Ask open-ended questions

  • Open-ended questions are good ways to tackle more. This can give a good feeling to the ones with whom you have the conversation. It means that you are interested and not bored.

6. Give the right reaction to a person’s opinion or comments

  • Give the appropriate response, like facial expressions, hand/body gestures, or tone of voice.

7. Just go with the flow, but divert what isn’t appropriate

  • Some people love talking and sharing information under the sun. Listen and avoid interrupting the person. But if it seems to be inappropriate, you can divert the topic to something good.

8. Avoid talking more about yourself, and never dominate the conversation

  • A meaningful and purposeful conversation should be balanced. It shouldn’t be all about you, and it shouldn’t be all about the other person.

Thank you so much for reading! If you have any comments or something to share regarding this topic: 8 tips to have a better conversation? Don’t hesitate to leave them in the comment section. If you found this post helpful, please don’t forget to share it with other people!

Why is it important to be selective with our words?

Why is it important to be selective with our words?

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Importance of being selective with our words.

Words coming from our mouths can either inspire or make someone’s day dull or stressful!

We want to bring a positive effect to someone’s life if possible that’s why we have to choose the right words at the right time. What does it mean? For example, if the situation or the environment is happy, you can crack some jokes or tell happy stories as well. But, if the person whom you are talking with has a problem and looks sad, you have to think of ways how you can be able to lift her mood. For example, showing sympathy and giving words of encouragement. We have to be mindful enough to avoid uttering unnecessary words or stories that can bring some regrets later on.

Words are powerful because they either make a heart or break a heart!

It can either inspire someone else or be the reason for someone’s resentment. Words are desirable in a way that they can carry us to different places where we haven’t seen yet, know some information that we aren’t updated with, and know the people we don’t even meet yet in person.

Words are our ways of expressing our thoughts, sharing our experiences (whether it is happy or sad), and giving our comments and opinions on a specific topic. Our words are always attached to a certain emotion when we are producing it. That’s why we have to choose positive words if we want to produce a happy environment. This will greatly help us and other people to feel better.

Quick tips before we go to the importance of being selective with words:

  • Take time to filter your ideas, responses, or opinions before you speak them. It’s ok to wait for a few seconds or minutes to respond. Responding immediately doesn’t make you any wiser, because you might say words that you don’t mean to say.
  • Promise and commit yourself to avoid complaining and gossiping about yourself and others. Venting our emotions to someone else is very helpful to relieve stress but we have to take note that it should only be to people whom we can trust. People change! Your friends now can be an enemy tomorrow! And the words that you said won’t change any more.
  • Talk about being happy and appreciative. And always aim to communicate effectively.

Sometimes it’s also hard to control our words given that the one with whom we have the conversation is a friend or someone whom we haven’t met for a long time. And to make up for the years that have past without seeing each other we often sit or go out with them to fill those times that we haven’t seen them in person by talking and telling stories about the things that we have missed already. However, there’s one thing that we also miss sometimes, and that is to be careful of the things that are coming out of our mouths.

So, why does being selective with words very important?

Being selective with words during a conversation with somebody is very important because:

  • It saves us from being liable. A story being told to someone else could spread easily, especially if that person is a chitchat person. This means that person isn’t careful about the things which he/she shares with someone else. So always choose your words, and choose to whom you share your words as well.
  • Being selective with words helps you to minimize the length of a conversation. A long conversation with someone else shortens or distracts your productivity. There are countless things that you can do instead of spending time conversing with someone else which only goes to talking about the life of other people.
  • Being selective with the words that you say enhances your critical thinking. It means you only produce words that you think can produce a worthful topic. This will then help you to gain knowledge, ideas, and information that is beneficial for improving your self-development instead of gaining negative thoughts or learning negative actions from a lengthy conversation.
  • Being selective with words helps you to avoid unimportant details that could only create negatives in life.
  • It helps you to focus on what matters most, like deciding what to pay attention to and what to avoid because being selective means being aware of your words.
  • Being selective with words helps you to ignore certain stimuli that could ruin a conversation, and be able to concentrate on it to create a meaningful one.
How to boost your confidence as a mom?

How to boost your confidence as a mom?

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This post will help you gain confidence on how to manage the house, how to relate with family and other people, and how to face personal endeavors in life.

Ways to boost your confidence as a mom.
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Being a good mom is a choice that we have to choose each day. To be able to put our children’s happiness and well-being ahead of our own is truly a mighty thing! To be able to teach our children the right one and do the right thing is fulfilling. Even when there are times that we’re not that sure what the right thing is. We choose to do it, we choose to give it, we choose to show it, for us to be able to embody that supermom image that our children see us.

We have to be strong and we have to be a good example through their eyes. Forgiving ourselves over and over again when we’ve done wrong, when we’ve forgotten to accomplish little tasks, and when we became anxious about the things that we can’t decide properly allows us to realize that there is always room for adjustment, for maturity and improvement.

Being a mom isn’t about being perfect, being the most beautiful, or smart. It’s about having the right amount of everything, most importantly: love, kindness, patience, and compassion.

Whether you are a working mom or a stay-at-home mom. We all need to build our self-confidence to deal with our daily lives.

Being a mom isn’t that easy, because we have to weigh and balance everything to achieve a stress-free life. Yes, we can’t avoid being stressed sometimes due to the things that we have to manage at home, relationships with our loved ones and other people that we need to handle, and facing our endeavors could also mean taking time to understand ourselves more. But we can manage everything if we are confident in tackling each situation even how hard or impossible it may be.

Managing the house

Managing the house can be stressful if we aren’t confident in what we are doing. From deciding what to cook, what to buy, how to take care of the kids, how to fix the things, how to clean the house, and how to make it as homey as it should be! If we are confident about the things that we should be doing there could be greater happiness instead of a toxic life.

How can we boost our confidence in managing the house?

  • Love what you are doing
  • Enjoy the tasks
  • Be happy
  • Commit to time management
  • Plan your day
  • One task at a time
  • Simplify everything
  • Trust yourself

Relationship with our family

Our relationship with our family could also suffer if we aren’t confident about how to handle them. As the mother of the house, we are the ones who are most affected if some members of the family aren’t on good terms. We have to know some ways to fix it right away. And be able to bring back a harmonious home environment.

How can we boost our confidence in dealing with our family?

  • Know your role, and know their roles.
  • Implement the right action.
  • Be firm if you believe you’re doing the right thing.
  • Understand each family member’s personality.
  • Always be fair
  • Make the house happy.
  • Include the family in making important decisions.

The way we relate to other people

We can’t control how people might think about us. But we can control ourselves not to get affected by them. People would always have a say on how we look, how we raise our children, how we make decisions etc. And it’s something that may drag our confidence down. If we know how to handle those things we won’t lose our confidence.

How can we boost our confidence with the way we relate to other people?

  • You don’t have to prove yourself to anybody else.
  • Just continue what you believe can benefit you and your family.
  • Smile and show kindness even to those people who hated you.
  • Talk to people at eye level.
  • Never look down on yourself.
  • Show what you’ve got!
  • Share your opinions, and give your comments or suggestions.

Facing our endeavors

We are unique human beings, we have personal goals and dreams in life. Whether you are a working mom or a stay-at-home mom, you have other things which you wanted to achieve. And it takes ample confidence for you to grab it.

How can we boost our confidence in facing our endeavors?

  • Don’t give up on your dream.
  • There’s always a time for everything.
  • Listen to your gut, sometimes our body gives us a strong feeling about what decision we should take, and it’s not a wrong thing to consider.
  • Be a lifelong learner, read more.
  • Love and trust yourself.
  • Focus and find ways to develop yourself.

To all mothers out there remember that you are an important creation in this world. Embrace the magic of motherhood! Enjoy every bit of it, and you’ll see that everything is beautiful!

Spiritual well-being: What to check and how to say that you’re spiritually healthy?

Spiritual well-being: What to check and how to say that you’re spiritually healthy?

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Spiritual well-being is our ability to achieve a meaningful and purposeful life. It’s all about our relationship with our inner self and the wider world.

Spiritual well-being or spiritual health.
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Activities that can help us with achieving spiritual health:

  • Practicing self-care
  • Showing gratitude
  • Having a positive outlook on life
  • Being optimistic
  • Volunteering/helping the community or society genuinely.
  • Connecting to other people, and your faith community
  • Doing yoga and meditation
  • Journaling
  • Spending time with nature
  • Doing hobbies that can bring you priceless joy
  • Traveling and connecting with nature
  • Proper lifestyle

What to check with your spiritual well-being?

  • Check whether you are in a balanced state of life. Meaning you can manage to handle your positive and negative emotions.
  • Check how you face or solve every challenge that you are going through.
  • Check whether you are living the life you want for yourself.
  • Check your values, beliefs, morals, and personality.

How to say that you’re spiritually healthy?

  • You are spiritually healthy if you know your purpose in life.
  • You have a clear direction to where you should go.
  • You can accept and respect others’ opinions, even if it’s not the same as yours.
  • You choose to be positive even though you’re facing challenges in life.
  • You can face your fears
  • You understand the mysteries of life and how you should act on it.
  • You can appreciate simple and tiny details that you can’t even appreciate before. For example, the smile of a happy child, the happiness in an old person’s eye, the rays of the sun, the pouring rain, the calming moon, and the sparkling stars.

Spiritual well-being helps you to become a better person.

  • It helps you to become compassionate
  • It makes you more loving and forgiving
  • It helps you to find joy and fulfillment even in the simplest thing around.
  • Relieves you from material dependency that would only ruin true happiness.
  • Helps you to understand why you are here on Earth.
  • Helps you to cope with changes or uncertainties in life.
  • Strengthens your self-control and self-discipline.
How to get involved and help the community where you live?

How to get involved and help the community where you live?

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Do you want to help the community where you live, but wondering how to do it? Or are you thinking if you’re making an impact on your community?

Sometimes you are just unaware that you are already making helpful actions to the community where you live! And oftentimes you are thinking of ways on how to help in your little ways.

Ways that you can help in the community.
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We are all busy every day and helping out the community is sometimes we forget or don’t consider anymore. But remember that this is an activity that is worth doing during our spare time.

So, let us learn below simple ways on how we can help our community:

Think of some ways where you can volunteer.

  • Volunteering is a simple way yet fulfilling activity that you can do during your free time. Isn’t it that it’s a good activity than just sitting around watching movies that can only make you sad? Depending on your educational background, capability, resources, or passion, you can use it in deciding how you can help the community.
  • You can be a volunteer lecturer on a related topic in your community, you can volunteer in taking care of homeless animals like cats or dogs, you can help in cleaning the environment and making ways to promote proper waste disposal, etc. There are countless ways you can get involved, but make sure to always consider what you know, what you are good at, and what interests you the most.

Help and inspire your neighbors

  • Our neighbors might be going through difficult times without being aware of it. These may be due to physical, emotional, psychological, financial, etc. Taking time to talk with them will help you find ways to help with what they are going through.
  • You can help them by giving advice, teaching them about proper budgeting or home management, giving them tips on how they can manage their stress, or how to cook something healthy for the family, etc.
  • You can have a lot of ways to help them. It’s just a simple effort but could already make a big difference in their well-being.

Cleaning up the backyard or front yard

  • One way to inspire others is for them to see what you are doing. By simply picking up trash, sweeping, and disposing of the garbages properly, you are already showing them a pleasant activity that can help the environment. Becoming a role model is a nice way to motivate people to be mindful also in taking care of the nature and environment.
  • Doing gardening, planting ornamental plants to beautify the surrounding, or planting vegetables for food consumption. You are not just helping the surroundings to make it free from weeds but you are also helping to purify the air.

Donating your stuff or things that you don’t need anymore

  • Giving can greatly impact people who need it the most while decluttering some spaces on your cabinets or shelves. Things that you can donate are clothing, shoes, toys, or even food.

Be a good member of the community

  • You can also help the community by simply showing a good attitude.
  • Don’t throw your garbages anywhere.
  • Take part in your community programs.
  • Be kind to everyone and show a genuine attitude.
  • Be friendly to your neighbors and other people in your community.
  • Help the community achieve peace and order by starting it yourself.
  • Follow the rules and guidelines that are being implemented in your community.

Our involvement as a part of the community where we live is crucial for its development. And being a part of an improved and developed community gives us something that we can be proud of.

Why rejections aren’t bad and what can you do if you are experiencing it?

Why rejections aren’t bad and what can you do if you are experiencing it?

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Rejections are part of life that we have to accept. Rejections are real but it isn’t that bad, this is essential for our well-being if only we take it positively.

Things to do when you are experiencing rejections.

Rejection is the act of not accepting or considering something. And it’s not a comfortable feeling especially if you aren’t expecting it. It may happen in life a few times a year depending on how you handle every situation.

Examples of rejections are as follows: you are being ignored by the person that you wanted, turned down by someone, disappointed over not being chosen, not considering your ideas or opinions, refusal to support your goals, or you aren’t promoted over other colleagues. There are lots of rejections and it comes from small to big form.

Below are the effects of rejections in our life:

  • This could increase your emotional feelings such as anxiety, sadness, anger, jealousy, and depression.
  • It decreases your daily performance, you feel less energized than usual.
  • It can also affect your self-esteem, the way you interact with others, and the way you handle your day.

What can you do about rejection is that you should make it a positive experience rather than thinking of negative thoughts and feelings.

If for example, you are the person who’s gonna be rejecting someone, make sure that you do it positively. This will lessen the gravity of how the rejected person will handle the situation.

  • Preparedness- you have to prepare yourself, think of how you will deliver your words.
  • Be honest about your reason, and tell why you are rejecting.
  • Avoid false hope as it will only make another emotional problem to the person.

How to deal with rejections?

  • Understand why it hurts, allow yourself to feel it.
  • Look at the brighter side of life.
  • Take a look at yourself, watch out for your thoughts and emotions.
  • Do self-affirmations and self-care activities.
  • Surround yourself with loved ones who can bring comfort and guidance.
  • Strive to do better, and just try until you make it.
  • Think of your goal, remember that rejections are part of achieving success.