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How to boost your confidence as a mom?

How to boost your confidence as a mom?

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This post will help you gain confidence on how to manage the house, how to relate with family and other people, and how to face personal endeavors in life.

Ways to boost your confidence as a mom.
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Being a good mom is a choice that we have to choose each day. To be able to put our children’s happiness and well-being ahead of our own is truly a mighty thing! To be able to teach our children the right one and do the right thing is fulfilling. Even when there are times that we’re not that sure what the right thing is. We choose to do it, we choose to give it, we choose to show it, for us to be able to embody that supermom image that our children see us.

We have to be strong and we have to be a good example through their eyes. Forgiving ourselves over and over again when we’ve done wrong, when we’ve forgotten to accomplish little tasks, and when we became anxious about the things that we can’t decide properly allows us to realize that there is always room for adjustment, for maturity and improvement.

Being a mom isn’t about being perfect, being the most beautiful, or smart. It’s about having the right amount of everything, most importantly: love, kindness, patience, and compassion.

Whether you are a working mom or a stay-at-home mom. We all need to build our self-confidence to deal with our daily lives.

Being a mom isn’t that easy, because we have to weigh and balance everything to achieve a stress-free life. Yes, we can’t avoid being stressed sometimes due to the things that we have to manage at home, relationships with our loved ones and other people that we need to handle, and facing our endeavors could also mean taking time to understand ourselves more. But we can manage everything if we are confident in tackling each situation even how hard or impossible it may be.

Managing the house

Managing the house can be stressful if we aren’t confident in what we are doing. From deciding what to cook, what to buy, how to take care of the kids, how to fix the things, how to clean the house, and how to make it as homey as it should be! If we are confident about the things that we should be doing there could be greater happiness instead of a toxic life.

How can we boost our confidence in managing the house?

  • Love what you are doing
  • Enjoy the tasks
  • Be happy
  • Commit to time management
  • Plan your day
  • One task at a time
  • Simplify everything
  • Trust yourself

Relationship with our family

Our relationship with our family could also suffer if we aren’t confident about how to handle them. As the mother of the house, we are the ones who are most affected if some members of the family aren’t on good terms. We have to know some ways to fix it right away. And be able to bring back a harmonious home environment.

How can we boost our confidence in dealing with our family?

  • Know your role, and know their roles.
  • Implement the right action.
  • Be firm if you believe you’re doing the right thing.
  • Understand each family member’s personality.
  • Always be fair
  • Make the house happy.
  • Include the family in making important decisions.

The way we relate to other people

We can’t control how people might think about us. But we can control ourselves not to get affected by them. People would always have a say on how we look, how we raise our children, how we make decisions etc. And it’s something that may drag our confidence down. If we know how to handle those things we won’t lose our confidence.

How can we boost our confidence with the way we relate to other people?

  • You don’t have to prove yourself to anybody else.
  • Just continue what you believe can benefit you and your family.
  • Smile and show kindness even to those people who hated you.
  • Talk to people at eye level.
  • Never look down on yourself.
  • Show what you’ve got!
  • Share your opinions, and give your comments or suggestions.

Facing our endeavors

We are unique human beings, we have personal goals and dreams in life. Whether you are a working mom or a stay-at-home mom, you have other things which you wanted to achieve. And it takes ample confidence for you to grab it.

How can we boost our confidence in facing our endeavors?

  • Don’t give up on your dream.
  • There’s always a time for everything.
  • Listen to your gut, sometimes our body gives us a strong feeling about what decision we should take, and it’s not a wrong thing to consider.
  • Be a lifelong learner, read more.
  • Love and trust yourself.
  • Focus and find ways to develop yourself.

To all mothers out there remember that you are an important creation in this world. Embrace the magic of motherhood! Enjoy every bit of it, and you’ll see that everything is beautiful!

10 effective ways to overcome a bad mood!

10 effective ways to overcome a bad mood!

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A bad mood is an unpleasant feeling that we experience from time to time. This is due to numerous circumstances that are happening within ourselves and around us.

Effective ways to overcome a bad mood.
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We can’t avoid having a bad mood sometimes due to a lot of triggers around us!

Our body hormones, our personality and that of others, how we respond to other people and how they respond to us, the environment where we are at the moment, underlying illnesses like simple headaches, colds or body aches, situational stressors, poor sleeping pattern, tiredness or work-related problems, etc.

There are times wherein we can’t control how we respond to those factors and sometimes our immediate action is to feel sad, cry, get angry, and feel frustrated all day long. But we have to do some ways to conquer it and regain a positive mood so that we can avoid further problems that may occur. The negative feelings that we are experiencing will give a negative view in life and will produce as well a negative effect on our behavior, how we make decisions, how we deal with the present situation, or how we get along with other people.

There are ways that you can turn that bad mood into a happier mood:

Below are natural ways to overcome that bad mood that you are experiencing!

  1. Physical touch just like kisses, hugs, or cuddles can release hormones that help us to improve our mood. Whenever we touch, cuddle, hug, or hold the hands of someone dear to us, our bodies release hormones that make us feel better. Once the hormones are released into our bodies we experience the feeling of happiness, calmness, and low levels of stress and depression.
  2. Give a smile or laugh even if you don’t like to. Laughing or smiling seems awkward when you’re not in the mood, but these simple actions can help us recover faster from the bad moods and stress that we feel. Forcing a smile can still boost our mood and increase our happiness level.
  3. Always remind yourself how lucky you are because you are living in this world. Gratitude is linked to greater happiness and life satisfaction. Gratitude helps you to feel more positive vibes and energy, it gives you great emotions, and better experiences, helps you to deal with challenges, and build strong relationships with others.
  4. Go outside, the natural glow of nature helps you feel better. Going outside, walking around, sitting below a tree, or just staring at the flowers, leaves, or cloud formation helps you to reduce the feeling of anxiety, sadness, anger, fear, and stress. Spending time with nature will not only make you feel better mentally and emotionally, but it also contributes to your physical well-being as well. It helps in regulating blood pressure, heart rate, and muscle tension, and limits the production of stress hormones in your body.
  5. Move your body, and do some physical activities. Perform a light exercise, dance with your favorite upbeat song, sing your favorite song, walk, or jump! Physical activities that you perform daily can help to uplift your mood.
  6. Take a warm shower or bath! Bathing has been linked to improved mental wellness. It’s because taking a warm shower or bath can reduce symptoms of depression and anxiety. Your body’s reaction to the warm water relaxes your muscles and improves your mood.
  7. Loosen what burdens you, choose positivity! Think and feel positive emotions. Thinking and feeling positive emotions help to broaden our self-awareness, helping us to see more ways to solve problems or challenges. Studies show that people feel and can do their best when they have at least three times as many positive emotions.
  8. Treat yourself to simple things that you don’t usually do. Like going to the salon, having a foot spa, eating your favorite food, etc. Self-love or giving attention to yourself can improve your mood. It helps with your overall outlook in life.
  9. Be kind to everyone and especially to yourself. Kindness has been shown to boost self-confidence, and improve mood, compassion, and empathy. It can decrease high blood pressure and stress level.
  10. Be creative or do something that you love or enjoy. Creativity and productivity help to fight anxiety because they activate the parts of your brain that process your emotions. For example, gardening, doing art, decluttering, baking, or cooking helps to calm brain activity and allows the individual to feel a sense of emotional and mental harmony.

Our health is more important than our pride, it is more important than satisfying our bad moods! So, choose to change that bad feeling.

Self-care ideas that are helpful for women!

Self-care ideas that are helpful for women!

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We can’t avoid being irritated or stressed sometimes due to countless things that need our attention each day.

Self-care tips for women.

As a woman, we can’t avoid having mood swings, especially when there are bodily discomforts that we are experiencing. Having mood swings aren’t a joke, we also don’t like it as it affects our daily relationship with other people in the household. That’s why we also need to do some self-care activities that can lift our mood and better our day.

Here are self-care ideas that you can do:

  • Ensure good nutrition, proper hygiene, enough rest, and sleep. These are important things that we need to provide to ourselves daily. Taking care of ourselves is also making sure that our body achieves the necessary elements that could energize us.
  • Boost your physical health – doing physical activities or daily exercises is a good way to help your immune system work at its best. This would help us to strengthen our balance which is essential for the avoidance of injuries and falls.
  • Relax or unwind – you need this to remove the stress that is ruining your body. Take a few minutes to stay in an area where you can do deep breathing and alone time. Process your mood and fill your mind with positive thoughts. Taking care of our mental health is very necessary, especially nowadays!
  • Find time to socialize – you also need to socialize with other people. A small talk to different people could increase your socialization skill, it can help you to easily connect better with different behaviors.
  • Enhance your skills – enhancing your skills and capabilities is a good way to build self-confidence within you. Caring for yourself is not just about the physical. You also need to help yourself with the things that could help you grow and develop.
  • Change your routine—routine activities make you bored, and therefore it’s a need to change the usual things that you do. It helps you to stay enthusiastic and excited about doing new stuff every day.
  • Ask for help, delegate if you can’t do the chores alone. Listen to your body, so as not to exhaust it, and to avoid getting sick.
  • Smile often – the power of smiling and being happy is always a good idea to help you achieve a well and healthy mind and body.
  • Be grateful – being appreciative for what you have is a good way towards achieving self-fulfillment. Shine within so you can shine outside!
  • Avoid negative thoughts – indulging in negativities could make your mental health suffer.
  • Lastly, be mindful of doing the things that you love.
Important self-advices to ponder this year

Important self-advices to ponder this year

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The following are some of the things that we should reflect on, to lighten how we deal with our daily lives.

Things to ponder this year.
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  • It’s ok not to win in every argument.
  • Crying with somebody is more healing than crying alone in the corner.
  • Don’t compare your life with other people, they have their struggles too.
  • It’s never too late to be happy, keep smiling! Those worries and concerns that you feel will be forgotten as time goes by. As they say, time heals almost everything.
  • Today is a special day! Use that beautiful clothing in your closet. Eat that delicious food in your refrigerator, and travel to that wonderful place that you love!
  • Get outside every day, spectacular gifts are waiting for you!
  • Jealousy is a waste of time, treasure what you have.
  • Life isn’t in a box, but it’s still a gift that is worth opening each day.
  • Don’t worry, as all things will happen if it’s meant to be. But of course, you also have to move and do your part, and avoid being afraid.
  • Stop comparing the past to the present. Live each moment, live today.
  • Leave your painful experiences so that you can go forward with confidence into the future that you are about to develop.
  • Tell your loved ones that you love them. Be glad that they are the ones placed in your present life. Seek and appreciate every knowledge and memory that you learned from them.
  • Invest more time with your family. It’s never wrong to have those material things that you worked hard for, such as your wonderful house, your awesome car, pretty clothing, or things, if it took part in creating those memories.
  • Strive to just be yourself, be the person that defines you.
  • Don’t allow yourself to be a shadow of someone else life, or to be the accessory of who they are.
  • Love yourself every single day, and choose to live with no regrets at all.
You are enough just as who you are!

You are enough just as who you are!

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You are enough, doesn’t mean that you are already perfect, whole, complete, grown, or developed. It doesn’t mean that you don’t need others already. But it means that you don’t need to be perfect, complete, grown, or developed to be accepted, appreciated, loved, or to be able to fit in.

Explanation of the beautiful quote, you are enough.
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You don’t need to strive so hard just to become the person that other people expect or want you to be. Because it’s not you! And if you are living by their expectations, you will always desire for the unknown, and you will feel that you aren’t enough.

Living in the standards set by manipulative and inconsiderate people is exhausting, heartbreaking, emotionally and mentally damaging. Mold yourself to be the person that you wanted. Reach your star in your little ways!

Being good for yourself and being able to accept who you are can bring so much freedom that you needed to become worthy. You don’t need to be everything because you already have it. Being contended is hard, especially when you see others that are already fulfilled. But this is what everyone needs to be whole and complete.

We have to realize that we all have imperfections, and admitting it is necessary to live purposefully.

Appreciate your life and own it, your life shouldn’t be an endless marathon, trying hard to prove everything to people who don’t appreciate who you are. Letting go of others’ opinions and expectations are good ways to make yourself better. If you do these, everything will happen the way it should be.

The person you need to believe!

The person you need to admire…
The person you ever dreamed to be…
The person who will help you achieve the most impossible…
The person who will give you strength and courage to stand…
The person who will be there to motivate you…
That person is YOU…

The benefits of loving yourself!

The benefits of loving yourself!

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Let me ask you this question, do you love yourself? You might ask me back, hey why are you asking that, of course I love myself! A follow-up question, how do you treat other people?

I asked the second question because it’s so easy to tell that you love yourself, but how you treat other people will reflect on how you treat yourself. It’s not new that even in the bible it reminds us to, “Love your neighbor as you love yourself!”

Your tasks:

Learn to consider the feelings of other people, learn to recognize their worth, learn to appreciate their efforts, and learn to respect them wholeheartedly.

You might ask:

But what if they don’t do that to me? Why should I give them all that positive treatment and efforts? To answer it shortly, it’s because the whole benefits will go to you. If they don’t treat you right, they will be the ones to suffer, they will feel more stress, and they will feel being disappointed because you don’t mind their silly thing. That thing could interfere their health and will ruin their life. You don’t want that to happen because you love yourself, right?

Self-awareness and acceptance:

Loving yourself means you know your strength and weakness, and you know how to use and improve it. You’re not comparing yourself because you accept the fact that you are unique, and you have that abilities and capabilities. You are honest to yourself, in the sense that you don’t make false beliefs just to raise your worth.

Here are the benefits of loving yourself:

  • It improves your self-esteem or self-confidence. You believe in yourself, and therefore increases your will to perform an activity.
  • It provides you with the self-worth you need in life. Loving yourself, raises your ability to recognize your importance as a human being.
  • You feel more energized than usual, and you have a positive view about life, that motivates you to do more.
  • Furthermore, you feel happier, and have a good outlook towards life. For the reason that, you are not stressed, that’s why it’s so easy for you to bring out that beautiful smile on your face!
  • You are more productive, and you can easily finish daily tasks and personal goals because you feel inspired.
  • You will become the better version of what you want to be.
  • It helps you to be aware of your potentials or what you can do to achieve your goals.
  • It improves your mental capacity and overall health. You are far from getting mood disorders like anxiety, depression etc. and you are doing or performing good ways on how to take good care of your body.
Tasks that will help you achieve self-love

Tasks that will help you achieve self-love

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Self-love means loving yourself the way you are, you know your imperfections and accepted it, you are making a way to enhance your talents, your gifts, abilities, and capabilities. It is vital to achieve self-love to share it to others without doubting because how can you offer love if you can’t even give it to yourself?

Tasks to achieve self-love

In these tasks, you will create and identify your key strengths so that you’ll be able to live yourself more. You will be building your inner self to be stronger, confident and loved. You will be focusing on self-improvement that is needed to help you come out of that comfort zone that is actually limiting you to show what you can do to the world.

Here are the tasks that will help you achieve self-love:

  • You have numerous things that you are actually good at, list at least 5 of it.
  • We are all unique, and you have that physical features that you love about yourself, list at least 3 of it.
  • There are a countless things you should be thankful for, list at least 10 of it.
  • You have daily routines that you want to maintain because it boosts your self-confidence, list your top 5.
  • Top 3 positive words or compliments you want to tell yourself.
  • Write yourself a letter, a message you want to tell about forgiving yourself to whatever fault you’ve done before, and a letter for yourself regarding the things that you’ve done well.
  • List 3 achievements that you received or things you’ve done that make you proud of yourself.
  • List 3 ways on how you can improve your mindset or the way you think.
  • We aren’t perfect people of the Earth, there are times that we show bad attitudes, list your bad attitudes that you need to quit now!
  • List at least 5 things that make you feel happier.
  • If there is an ultimate advice you can give yourself, what it would be?
  • List 5 positive attitude that you will start doing now!

You don’t need to do it at once, take time. You can even divide these tasks so that you can focus on each given task.

So, these are the tasks that will help you achieve self-love. Finishing these tasks will help you realize how far you’ve become, how worthy you are as a person. It will boost your personality to the next level as well.

The person you need to believe!

The person you need to admire…
The person you ever dreamed to be…
The person who will help you achieve the most impossible…
The person who will give you strength and courage to stand…
The person who will be there to motivate you…
That person is YOU…

Give time for yourself, self-care and self-love isn’t selfish

Give time for yourself, self-care and self-love isn’t selfish

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Nowadays, there are many people who are suffering from stress, depression and mental disorders. Mainly because of the fast-paced environment, emotional regrets, life disappointments, hatred, jealousy, anger, comparison and so much more. These are some reasons why we easily feel the emptiness and brokenness within.

Self-love and self-care

One way of preventing this is to have time for yourself, setting a few minutes to an hour every day for a “time alone” isn’t selfish.

It will give you time to think. Time to treat yourself to something you want. Time to do a little sort of pampering like taking a bath, putting your favorite cream, lotion or make-up, combing your hair, brushing your teeth, using nice clothing etc.

Sometimes because we are too busy every day with our daily tasks, duties, and responsibilities at work, home or at the community, we forget about ourselves, we should also pay attention to ourselves. Whoever you are, you are not selfish whenever you take some time for yourself. We should watch over our mental health because it is also important.

Here are self-care tips that you can do:

  • Love yourself more
  • do your personal self-care routine
  • Eat your favorite food
  • have enough rest and sleep
  • Listen to calming music
  • Treat yourself or buy something that makes you happy.
  • Do some deep breathing and relaxation techniques such as yoga and meditation.
  • Watch your favorite movie
  • Take a brisk walking
  • Compliment yourself
  • Cook or bake your favorite recipe
  • Do your creative stuffs or hobbies

Yes! Life isn’t that easy, but we can make it light if we are not stressed, depressed, problematic and toxic person. Help yourself to always choose positive thoughts and actions and do the desirable things that could help you to be a better person.