Importance of shared values in a relationship

January 31, 2022March 26, 2024 by MJMCM ♥ 1 Comment

Values can define who you are, and a couple needs to share each other’s values in life to avoid resentment and disappointment later on.

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Values in life can motivate people to act according to what they believe. It may be about healthy living, communication, relationship, parenting, personality, religion, and lifestyle. Values guide human behavior, such as in identifying the importance of an action, what actions should be done, or what is essential in your life.

A healthy relationship is a product of having good communication about your values and priorities. You’ve got to talk about your wants and expectations with each other within the relationship, thereby making you aware of the possibilities.

The importance of shared values in a relationship:

It will help you to keep each other, especially in difficult times. There isn’t a perfect relationship, as you go along with your life as a couple, there will be challenges that you have to face.
It brings happiness, comfort, and security.
There is a high chance of having a successful relationship if the couple shares values.
It gives substance to your life choices.
Makes your relationships easier to manage.
It will guide your relationship through the years.
If you are aware of each other’s values in life, it will help with your disposition and mutual decision-making.
It’s an important aspect of a good relationship.
It guides your beliefs and it helps you correct each other’s words and actions.
Shared values are important because our approach to life and relationship changes as we age.

Signs that your significant other is valuing you:

You are appreciated for your role, and for what you can do.
You aren’t blamed, and you aren’t made guilty for having other priorities.
Your significant other listens to your opinions and responds to you with compassion.
Your advice matters and it isn’t wasted.
You are being respected as a unique person who has a unique personality and goals in life.

Ways to balance your life and tips to enhance your parenting skills

January 28, 2022March 26, 2024 by MJMCM ♥ 1 Comment

As parents, it’s our responsibility to look after our children, take care of them, give their needs, provide their rights, nurture and raise them well.

Balancing life and enhancing parenting skills.

We have the role of offering them the support and encouragement that could help them to get into the activities that will enable them to complete their developmental tasks. And for us to provide all of these, we have to balance also our own life.

If there is an imbalance in our life this can account for an imbalance as well in our parenting skills. So, below are some tips to help you with taking the necessary action that could help you in parenting your children.

Face your children with a relaxed mood or aura. Manage your stress, and maybe you can do some self-care activities early in the morning while they are still asleep. Consider it as your me-time routine.
Learn with your children, and do something together. Like playing with them, eating meals, and praying together.
Enjoy the night routine. This is the moment that you are complete because maybe one of you is working in the daytime. Use this time to bond and interact with your children and spouse.
Delegate and set boundaries. Do not do all the tasks alone, share your parenting roles with your spouse. You are one into this beautiful journey.
Prioritizing your well-being is a helpful way for you and your children. It increases your self-confidence as a unique person, thus improving your ability to become a good parent.
Honor each other’s words. Go along with your children. Listen to what they are saying so that they will also listen to you.
Manage your schedule and spend it wisely. To avoid getting stress that could ruin your day, you should plan things.
Be true at all times, tell your children what is going on. Update them with your current activities so that they would know why you aren’t present sometimes.
Think of every decision that you will make. Set your priorities and consider your children.
Be present if you can, especially during important days or occasions in their life.
Lastly, aim to better yourself so that you can successfully help with their development.

How to have a good partner in life?

January 9, 2022March 26, 2024 by MJMCM ♥ 2 Comments

Every woman or man wishes to have a good partner, better half, or spouse in life. Someone who will be there through ups and downs, and who can give the strength to cheer each other when things go wrong.

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But how to have a good partner?

In a relationship, the golden rule applies as well. If you treat your significant other nicely, he/she will also treat you that way.

Here are tips on how to have a good partner in life:

Always make sure to give each other genuine love, trust, and honesty.
Be good regardless of what problems and challenges you are facing.
Share your life with him/her. Be each other’s coffee and cream or bread and butter.
Be his/her best friend for life. Someone who can share a shoulder to cry on, and arms to comfort when something goes tough.
Spend time communicating with your partner. Communication is very much important to succeed in any relationship.
Make your him/her smile and laugh. Have some humor. A happy relationship is a healthy life to share with your significant other.
Be supportive of each other’s choices in life.
Whenever there is a difficulty, choose to talk it out rather than blaming someone right away.
Respect your significant other, especially in front of other people, never embarrass him/her. Treat each other with dignity.
Appreciate the little things that he/she is doing.
Prioritize giving quality time and creating great memories.

Ways to stay healthy during the holiday season

December 7, 2021March 26, 2024 by MJMCM ♥ 0 Leave a Comment

Holidays are intended for us to commemorate an important event that may be related to cultural and religious activities.

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And it’s also the days that most of us are off to school, work, or businesses. Spending quality time and doing fun activities with our loved ones are some of the things that we can do while at home. It’s also a time to gather with our friends and relatives to catch up with each other. We usually spend it on activities like cooking, eating, going somewhere, and doing fun activities together.

But, though these days can bring countless joys and fun, we also need to watch out for our health and wellness.

Below are some ways for you to stay healthy during holidays:

Consider boosting your immunity with vitamins and minerals to protect you from catching illnesses.
Drink plenty of water to stay hydrated.
Do your hygiene, such as bathing, handwashing, and using clean clothes.
Be active, spend a few minutes exercising to stay fit and healthy.
Avoid stress, choose to be happy, and enjoy whatever activities you do.
Choose to prepare and cook healthy meals.
Don’t skip meals.
Eat fiber-rich foods to control fats and blood sugar build-ups.
Be mindful of what you eat. During a get-together, we often prepare or see too many foods at the table. It’s very tempting! But remember to just eat the right amount of food at a time.
Delegate responsibility, avoid doing all the tasks if you can ask someone to help you. You might find yourself tired up to the point that it’s already ruining your immune system.
Watch out for your emotional well-being, too. Manage your expectations, or don’t expect too much. Holidays bring so much fun to many of us, and it sometimes brings high expectations. Sporadically, there are a few people out there who are experiencing loneliness because they can’t get along with their loved ones. If you are one of those, please don’t feel bad. You can still enjoy many things around that could make you happy!
Get enough sleep after a long and tiring day.

We should take note that the true meaning of happiness is not about the material or physical things that we see or hold. It’s the fulfillment that we can achieve from within. Let us spend the coming holiday season with greatness from above, and let’s all feel the importance of this celebration.

A father’s endless love

November 29, 2021March 26, 2024 by MJMCM ♥ 11 Comments

If there is a mother’s endless love, there is also a father’s endless love. Because without the other you will not be around!

Though there are a few differences when it comes to their roles as parents, one thing for sure is that they have the same love and affection for their children.

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A lovable father is someone willing to sacrifice a piece of himself just to see his family lives comfortably.

They work hard to provide for the needs of the household. They even go to a far place, spend overtime at work, and do two jobs at once, just to earn more for the family. They don’t want to see their family experience a difficult situation or struggle with essential needs, and that’s something we should salute to all the sacrificial dads out there!

A father is as well a great protector and a motivator, he will do anything to help his children out of danger.

He would always choose the best option available, and give what is appropriate for his child’s development. He would assist in crafting the best that his child can be.

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Additionally, a great father is patient, kind, humble, honest, selfless, knowledgeable, and righteous. He is one of a kind!

You can’t remember this, but he also experienced sleepless nights just to help your mom bring you to a comfortable sleep at night, when you were young! He felt your cries when you feel uneasy, he felt your pain when you were hurt, and he felt so much happiness when he sees you smile and laugh.

Your father may not be the kindest of them all. He may not be the sweetest. He may not be the toughest. Furthermore, he may not be the smartest, and he may not be the wealthiest! But you should always respect him, despite his imperfections. Love and appreciate him. He may not be the perfect father that you were longing for, but he was the perfect father that God gave you. So, accept and be happy about him.

Show him as well the love and care that he gave you. Especially when he is already old and weak. He will not ask for so many things as he won’t need them already. Your time, understanding, patience, and love would be the things that he will already need.

Give them their flowers while they are still alive!

November 2, 2021March 26, 2024 by MJMCM ♥ 0 Leave a Comment

November 02 is All Souls’ Day, it’s the commemoration of all the faithful departed, the day of our loved ones who were already dead. Various beliefs and practices such as preparing and cooking something for the day. Going to church to pray for the dead souls. Visiting and cleaning our loved one’s tombs, candle lighting, offering flowers, and remembering moments with them are some of the activities that are being done this day.

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Give them flowers while they are still alive!

This saying means giving them love while they can still feel it. Give them food while they can still taste it. Care for them while they can still appreciate it. Give them some gifts while they can still open them, laughing with them! Joking with them and enjoying each moment with them while they are still breathing, and while you are still breathing! Let’s fulfill each page of our lives with love and kindness!

Spend more time with your loved ones while you can, and while they are still around because time is running and time wasted never comes back anymore. Yes, we are just human and occasionally, when stress and bad emotion strikes, we forget to be human! We forget the right attitude, we forget to calm down during negative situations, and we forget to forgive. Negative attitudes and negativities are coming out, but let us not be defeated by these challenges! Always choose to love and not to hate.

Revelation 21:4 - He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.

The priceless moment of being a parent!

October 19, 2021March 26, 2024 by MJMCM ♥ 0 Leave a Comment

It was 9:00 am that morning when I wrote this post. But it looks too early to get up! My kids are still on the bed sleeping at that time. They were maybe tired from yesterday’s fun activities and games! While sitting at the table next to them, they captured my attention, and little by little stopped my pen to write the article I supposedly writing.

Staring at their faces while they are sleeping was so calming and peaceful. It brings me a priceless moment that I enjoyed!

It makes me miss them so much. During the day, when they are at their active hours, I sometimes uttered these phrases! Please minimize your noise, please fix your toys, please listen and cooperate with mom! But then suddenly I realized that it’s their freedom, it’s their moment to be a child, to explore things, to express themselves, and it’s their time to utilize their childhood stage.

To all parents, let’s just enjoy being parents and let’s allow them to enjoy their childhood too!

Let us make it easy for them, and let us make it easy for us as well. Soon they will grow up and things wouldn’t be the same anymore! Those cluttered toys. Those noises and childish attitudes will soon change. This will make us miss them so much when we are sitting on that rocking chair with our significant other, holding hands and reminiscing the yesterdays of our lives.

Time flies so fast, and as that happens things also won’t stay the same. A few years or decades from now, they would have their own family and life apart from us. They will stay in their houses, go or work to other places and will fulfill their dreams in life through their decisions.

But what will stay in our memories, mind and hearts are the experiences we encountered and enjoyed with them. How we treat them well, how we help them with their growth and development. How we play and enjoy every activity with them, and how we instill the appropriate values they need as they grow and become good human beings, will ever be as good as wealth!

Why do some people that you know, sometimes will not support you?

October 8, 2021March 26, 2024 by MJMCM ♥ 5 Comments

This post will tackle about some reasons why it seems that strangers are more inclined to support your venture in life apart from those people whom you know personally, such as your family, relatives, or friends?

Occasionally, it’s easy for us to get hurt or develop sentimental emotion regarding the feelings of being unsupported. But we have to take note that there are also contributing factors as to why this happens.

I recently browsed my social media account and I encountered this woman who posted about her feelings regarding her experiences of being unsupported by some of the people she knows personally.

She stated that for her years of having her business, it seems that strangers were likely the ones supporting her. She added that whenever she posted something regarding her business, no one or just few of her relatives could even bother to support her. They couldn’t even recognize, encourage or show some happiness for her achievements. She added that majority of the appreciation and encouragement that she received came from people who are not related, and she doesn’t meet yet in person.

What’s the reason behind this scenario? Why is it that some people that you know won’t bother to support you?

It might because of the following reasons:

They may have their personal issues in life that they need to focus.
They are too busy with their stuff.
Furthermore, they might be afraid for your failure, or don’t agree with you that much.
You don’t consider their opinions.
They are trying to protect you from trouble, but it may be that they are trying to protect themselves too.
Your personal development might give them lots of intimidation or personal insecurities.

But why do strangers are more inclined to support you?

For the reasons that, strangers don’t know you personally.
Strangers don’t usually show their real colors to people they don’t know much. That’s why they would present themselves good or nice.
People normally nicer to everyone whom they will mingle within a shorter period of time.

But, here are some sad facts or realities that might answer why you are being unsupported:

You can never please everybody.
Some people are just selfish.
Some of the people you know personally, aren’t genuinely happy for your achievements.
They would not support you because they don’t mind about your goals in life, and if it won’t benefit them.
Some people are insecure, it bothers their mind if they know that what you are doing can improve your life, and not their life.
It really bothers them if they can’t do what you are doing, that’s why they take it personally.
Some of these people might have unmet goals which makes their mind wanting to drag you down.
They want to avoid knowing that you look better in life than they would be.
They have dreams that they didn’t push through, it makes them feel miserable. That’s why instead of supporting you, they would even make face, and criticize every work that you do.
They will laugh at you when you fail, but will come near you when you succeed.

Whatever the reason behind it, you should be reminded by the following:

Don’t expect too much because people have different mindset, and maybe they aren’t the same as yours.
Support yourself, no one would do that 💯 percent apart from you.
Prove something and be able to make progress.
Give gratitude for those who supported you from the very start.
Use those other people who criticized or who doesn’t support you as your motivation to strive, to keep going and to do your best.
Improve yourself through continuous learning.
Be able to keep those people who are true to you and let go of those who will just bring negativities into your life.
Be mindful of what you post in social media, remember that not everyone is happy for you!

At the end of the day, it’s just about accepting the flows of life!

30 parenting mistakes that you should avoid!

September 26, 2021March 26, 2024 by MJMCM ♥ 0 Leave a Comment

This post will tackle about some mistakes that we must be willing to avoid as parents. Avoiding these mistakes could be very beneficial to our children’s welfare.

Yes, it’s true that as parents we can’t really avoid making mistakes 💯 percent, but we should try our best and do as we could, for the betterment of our children. Our goal as parents should be to raise a child in a way that is acceptable and right.

Bad parenting has a considerable effect later on to our children, that’s why we have to do our best to avoid those effects. Parenting is a period in our life that we should enjoy and be happy with. Be willing to set your child as your big priority now, “I am” should be replaced with “my child”.

Your child or children will grow and the time that they are young, is the best time to fulfill the love and care that they needed. To be nourished with love and affection that they will bring along as they grow old must be one of our goal as parents.

Here are the 30 parenting mistakes that you should avoid!

Being uncaring and cold.
Unrealistic expectations regarding your child’s achievements.
Being inconsistent about your parenting style.
Fighting in front of your children.
Not considering setting of limits and rules.
Ignoring the questions of your child because you are busy.
You don’t spend quality time with them.
Poor listener, you don’t mind your child’s opinion or suggestions.
Allowing bad behaviors because you think that it’s normal for kids.
You don’t supervise them, even though you are free.
You’re too authoritative and manipulative.
Not recognizing their good behaviors. You are only noticing them if they do bad, by scolding and correcting them.
You’re allowing the child do the things which are not acceptable.
You are protecting your child from failure. You’re limiting the child’s self-development.
Not offering praise for a job well done.
Criticizing and comparing them to other children.
You don’t show gratitude and positive behaviors.
You are trying to hide their negative sides.
Disciplining the child in public or in front of other people.
You always give advice, but you don’t encourage them.
You are not proud of their little efforts or life’s achievements.
Not letting them explore and learn on their own.
Not showing empathy or sympathy when they get hurt.
You are a perfectionist, trying hard to raise a perfect child.
Emotionally unavailable, you are physically present, but you don’t show it.
Doing the actions or completing tasks for your child.
Emphasizing that your child could do better than what the child can.
Telling your child not to act like a baby.
Asking the child, why are you so hard-headed?
Telling your child that children like his/her age don’t act like the way he/she does!

Let’s create a happy childhood for our children, if ever you did some things listed, please don’t think that you are too bad, recognizing and correcting those mistakes isn’t too late!

Will you pick it up?

February 9, 2021March 26, 2024 by MJMCM ♥ 4 Comments

An uplifting post to raise the morale of every woman.

A flower is a wonderful piece of nature, it’s a simple sign of love, purity, and beauty. I love seeing flowers as they remind me of the importance of women in society.

It was a beautiful day when I saw this flower lying beneath the green grass while going to the nearby food store. It looks fresh and seems like the flower has just fallen from its tree.

A flower can be compared to a woman, as she has a unique beauty, she is selfless and sweet. She is willing to sacrifice anything for the people close to her heart.

Please fill her with the love that she deserves, don’t take her for granted. She doesn’t need numerous material things, what she needs are your time and effort. It’s not a big deal for you to say something that will give her the assurance she needed, but for her, it means a lot. She loves to hear the words of love and appreciation coming from your mouth. She loves to feel that you really care and that you love her faithfully. Her beauty will fade, but her pure intentions of loving you won’t change, as long as the amount of love and attention you give occupies all the spaces in her heart.

Help her to bloom beautifully, and she will.

A woman who is living in a happy and well-nourished relationship is a woman who laughs and smiles beyond compare. She is always eager to talk and tell stories with you because she is comfortable, she is clingy because she felt so much spark at your side. Never take her for granted, love your woman! Love her imperfections as she loved yours. She may be moody sometimes and will experience feeling down, but always be willing to “pick her up”!

Effective ways to better deal with your toddler to avoid stressful moments

January 19, 2021March 26, 2024 by MJMCM ♥ 0 Leave a Comment

Having a toddler child is really challenging, but very fun! Some says that it’s a roller coaster, it’s hard, it requires a lot of attention and time, but I think it’s more on how you handle, treat and manage your toddler’s activities and change in attitude. A toddler does countless plays, curiosities, noises, and witty actions that makes every house lively and happy!

Effective ways to better deal with your toddler to avoid stressful moments:

Be consistent and establish a daily routine so that your child knows what to expect. If you plan to change your routine, make sure to introduce it one by one.
When you have things to do at home, make sure to do it when your child isn’t likely to be hungry or tired.
Let your child make appropriate choices. Allow your child to choose what he or she wants, but of course make sure that it won’t bring any harm.
Avoid saying no to everything because it lowers their self-esteem. Keep in mind that they are in the stage of self exploration.
Praise good behavior to help your child grow with the right attitude that every parent would like to see.
Avoid situations that are likely to trigger your child’s tantrums.
Toddlers are normally interested in touching everything, so if there are valuables and fragile things in your home that you don’t want them to handle, hide or remove it from their sight.
Most importantly, show them love, attention and lots of care.

Helpful tips on how to manage sibling rivalry and to promote good relationship among them

January 16, 2021March 26, 2024 by MJMCM ♥ 0 Leave a Comment

No matter how your kids are playing together and no matter how they bond during playtime, let’s face the fact that there are things or situations wherein they come to the point of having misunderstandings and disagreements.

A sibling rivalry occurs when there is jealousy, fighting, and competition between children, and it’s really a big concern for parents that shouldn’t be taken for granted. As parent, you have to fix things right so that they won’t grow with the idea of competing to their younger or older brother and sister because it may develop into personality problems later on. Sibling rivalry is normal, but it can become a concern if handled wrongly by parents.

But what causes this?

A child is developing and finding ways to define them as an individual. When they feel that they are getting unequal and undivided attention from their parents, and they see that it is more given to their brother or sister, they will form the idea of competing for your attention. It also happens before a new baby is coming, wherein they feel threatened by the arrival of their sibling. So, before the new baby is born, you should explain and reassure them that equal love and attention will be provided for them.

Here are helpful tips on how to manage sibling rivalry:

Don’t compare your children in front of them because it will embarrass them and their self-esteem will be affected.
Make them feel important and treat them as a unique person or individual.
Teach and allow your older child to help in caring younger brother or sister, this is done through your supervision.
Help your children to have a healthy sibling relationship, teach them to play without quarrelling and educate them the importance of sharing.
Never show favoritism, be calm and objective when disciplining them.
Come up with basic rules, for example: no bullying and fighting, approach mom or dad if something is wrong.
Never blame or punish, be objective rather than subjective, and be able to solve their problem in a good way.
At an early age, teach them already how to be a good brother or sister and inculcate positive life views for them to do what is always right.