Month: October 2021

Tips for making your three-year-old child happy on his birthday!

Tips for making your three-year-old child happy on his birthday!

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Making your three year old child happy on his birthday.

Yesterday was our second child’s birthday! The same day when we went to our doctor for scheduled Cesarean delivery. Though a bit nervous because it’s been five years since my last delivery. What I did at that moment is to pray and thank God for the wonderful baby that he entrusted to our care.

The same feeling five years ago! A mixed emotion because you never know what will happen after a few hours while in that delivery room, contrary to others’ belief it’s not like you are just lying there and waiting for the baby to come out!

During that time, I calmed myself and believed that everything will go well. At exactly 1:45 pm, this little boy came out in this world, making his first cry and first movements outside my womb. I can’t just explain how hubby, the eldest son, and I was so happy with the new member of our family!

Unnoticeably, day by day this little boy is growing too fast! Making countless changes as he reaches his growth and developmental milestones. We are so happy because he grows well, is healthy, and be able to reach every step accordingly.

Here are simple tips to make your three-year-old happy on his birthday:

  • Ask the celebrant of what food he would like on the day of his birthday! Our little one smiled and showed priceless happiness when we asked about his food choices. He showed that emotion because he believed that we like to know and consider his opinion.
  • Prepare ahead of time to avoid rushing on the day of your child’s birthday. Such as decorations (you can make it one day before his birthday) and a list of recipes to make or buy during your child’s birthday.
  • Set a specific time to start the celebration, and be able to set the table ahead of time.
  • Be able to know and get ready for the gift he would like to receive on his birthday.
  • On the day of the celebration, don’t forget to pray (depends on what religion you are), be happy, and make the moment alive by singing a birthday song before the celebrant will blow the cake’s candle!
  • Be able to take some pictures or videos for remembrance.

Remember, that the joy of the celebration isn’t on the food, decorations, or gifts that are to be given to the celebrant. It’s about the presence, support, and love of the people around him or her.

When to talk and when to keep silent?

When to talk and when to keep silent?

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There are days that it feels like a bad day, awful, and unfriendly one.

Some moments seem too awkward, and there are people, things, and circumstances that will test our patience!

When should you talk and when to keep your silence.
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But when is the right time to talk and when to keep silent? These are the questions that we need to consider, before taking any action.

Important notes:

  • Don’t talk too much with a mean person! A mean person will insult you in any way he/she could. To that person’s eye, you aren’t enough! So, whatever you talk, and how much you wanted to be good to that person, that person would always be hesitant. Instead of engaging with that person, why not do important things that matter in your life?
  • Remember not to utter words when you are angry, words when already said can never be reversed or undone, and might cause another conflict.
  • Silence is suited when we are angry because there is a possibility that the words we produce in our mouth during an intense emotion are negative. That soon will make us guilty of uttering words we do not want them to hear.
  • Talk when you are relaxed and when you are not stressed. A nervous and stressed body and mind could initiate potential problems, such as words that are hurtful and emotionally damaging.
  • People sometimes ruin your moment, and will cause you to feel emotionally exhausted, it causes stress that sometimes brings about uncontrolled emotions.
  • Remember that most of the mean people are unfulfilled in life. They will put you down, they will not trust whatever you say, such as information and thoughts that you wanted them to know. It’s ok, you don’t need to exert effort on these people, you will just be losing essential time of your life.
  • To avoid conflict, learn to control your speed. But take note to speak up if it’s already against the human law and God’s law. Correct them if they are wrong because if you don’t do it, then who will do it for them?
  • Be wary if it’s already unhelpful and harmful to you and other people, avoid involving yourself in any of these: slander, deceit, gossiping, quarreling, lying, and other evil works, to achieve a good and healthy mentality.

Remember these related bible verses:

The importance of being quiet:

Ecclesiastes 9:17 
The quiet words of the wise are more to be heeded than the shouts of a ruler or fools.

When you are angry with someone else:

Ephesians 4:26 
Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on the cause of your anger.

When you are in front of an enemy, or someone who talks about negativities:

Proverbs 21:23
Whoever guards his mouth and his tongue keeps him out of trouble.

If someone is having a hard time speaking, and that person is already in a difficult situation, afraid and a victim, be able to speak up for them:

Proverbs 31:9 
Speak up, judge righteously, and defend the rights of the afflicted and oppressed.

Why do you need to keep your silence when listening to advice?

Proverbs 19:20-21
Listen to advice and accept instruction, that you may gain wisdom in the future. Many are the plans in the mind of a man, but it is the purpose of the lord that will stand.

The verse that we need to remember:

Matthew 12:36-37
I tell you, on the day of judgment people will give account for every careless word they speak, for by your words you will be justified, and by your words, you will be condemned.
The priceless moment of being a parent!

The priceless moment of being a parent!

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A parent's priceless moment.

It was 9:00 am that morning when I wrote this post. But it looks too early to get up! My kids are still on the bed sleeping at that time. They were maybe tired from yesterday’s fun activities and games! While sitting at the table next to them, they captured my attention, and little by little stopped my pen to write the article I supposedly writing.

Staring at their faces while they are sleeping was so calming and peaceful. It brings me a priceless moment that I enjoyed!

It makes me miss them so much. During the day, when they are at their active hours, I sometimes uttered these phrases! Please minimize your noise, please fix your toys, please listen and cooperate with mom! But then suddenly I realized that it’s their freedom, it’s their moment to be a child, to explore things, to express themselves, and it’s their time to utilize their childhood stage.

To all parents, let’s just enjoy being parents and let’s allow them to enjoy their childhood too!

Let us make it easy for them, and let us make it easy for us as well. Soon they will grow up and things wouldn’t be the same anymore! Those cluttered toys. Those noises and childish attitudes will soon change. This will make us miss them so much when we are sitting on that rocking chair with our significant other, holding hands and reminiscing the yesterdays of our lives.

Time flies so fast, and as that happens things also won’t stay the same. A few years or decades from now, they would have their own family and life apart from us. They will stay in their houses, go or work to other places and will fulfill their dreams in life through their decisions.

But what will stay in our memories, mind and hearts are the experiences we encountered and enjoyed with them. How we treat them well, how we help them with their growth and development. How we play and enjoy every activity with them, and how we instill the appropriate values they need as they grow and become good human beings, will ever be as good as wealth!

Things you should consider for being too nice!

Things you should consider for being too nice!

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Being nice is a pleasant thing that will give you fulfillment and will bring numerous benefits to your body. But the question is do you consider yourself a good person? A good person will do what is right and what is acceptable. But of course, it should always be beyond control. A problem will occur if you do it too much!

Being too nice personality
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What does it mean by being too nice?

  • People are already manipulating you.
  • You are already being abused for your kindness and generosity.
  • You already have a guilt feeling regarding telling someone that they hurt you, and as a result, you prefer not to react to avoid losing them.
  • Furthermore, you keep worrying about being liked by someone or everyone else.
  • You’re becoming the so-called people pleaser.
  • You are already acting like buying friends or people to come into your life, that’s why you’re giving whatever they wanted.

Signs of a people pleaser:

  • You always agree, and you apologize too much.
  • Always double-check every detail to avoid missing out.
  • You are too affected by someone’s feelings and emotions.
  • You’re becoming overly humble.
  • Imitating actions just to fit with other people.
  • You always agree and say yes, even you’re not amenable.
  • You love to be liked by everyone, even to those you don’t like.
  • Telling white lies just to impress somebody.

Remember that being too nice could bring some self-neglect, you are already neglecting the things that matter in your life because you are busy providing everyone’s needs and wants, that they should do and find a way out themselves.

Note: You’re not responsible for anyone’s feelings and emotions.

Here are bad things that might happen if you’re too nice:

  • Being too nice can also affect you.
  • If you are always giving, some people will be used to it, and they will expect that from you always.
  • You will develop false expectations from other people.
  • Some people will come to you whenever they need something.
  • You will develop a fear of rejection and will have difficulty accepting judgment.
  • Being too nice can lead you to self-crisis. What does this mean? Being present in someone else lives all the time contributes to losing the sense of who you are.

What can you do about it?

  • Do what makes you feel good, build yourself.
  • Give yourself time.
  • Identify your goals and make them happen.
  • Avoid toxic and negative people.
  • Stop overthinking, and overanalyzing every situation.
Why do some people that you know, sometimes will not support you?

Why do some people that you know, sometimes will not support you?

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This post will tackle about some reasons why it seems that strangers are more inclined to support your venture in life apart from those people whom you know personally, such as your family, relatives, or friends?

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Occasionally, it’s easy for us to get hurt or develop sentimental emotion regarding the feelings of being unsupported. But we have to take note that there are also contributing factors as to why this happens.

I recently browsed my social media account and I encountered this woman who posted about her feelings regarding her experiences of being unsupported by some of the people she knows personally.

She stated that for her years of having her business, it seems that strangers were likely the ones supporting her. She added that whenever she posted something regarding her business, no one or just few of her relatives could even bother to support her. They couldn’t even recognize, encourage or show some happiness for her achievements. She added that majority of the appreciation and encouragement that she received came from people who are not related, and she doesn’t meet yet in person.

What’s the reason behind this scenario? Why is it that some people that you know won’t bother to support you?

It might because of the following reasons:

  • They may have their personal issues in life that they need to focus.
  • They are too busy with their stuff.
  • Furthermore, they might be afraid for your failure, or don’t agree with you that much.
  • You don’t consider their opinions.
  • They are trying to protect you from trouble, but it may be that they are trying to protect themselves too.
  • Your personal development might give them lots of intimidation or personal insecurities.

But why do strangers are more inclined to support you?

  • For the reasons that, strangers don’t know you personally.
  • Strangers don’t usually show their real colors to people they don’t know much. That’s why they would present themselves good or nice.
  • People normally nicer to everyone whom they will mingle within a shorter period of time.

But, here are some sad facts or realities that might answer why you are being unsupported:

  • You can never please everybody.
  • Some people are just selfish.
  • Some of the people you know personally, aren’t genuinely happy for your achievements.
  • They would not support you because they don’t mind about your goals in life, and if it won’t benefit them.
  • Some people are insecure, it bothers their mind if they know that what you are doing can improve your life, and not their life.
  • It really bothers them if they can’t do what you are doing, that’s why they take it personally.
  • Some of these people might have unmet goals which makes their mind wanting to drag you down.
  • They want to avoid knowing that you look better in life than they would be.
  • They have dreams that they didn’t push through, it makes them feel miserable. That’s why instead of supporting you, they would even make face, and criticize every work that you do.
  • They will laugh at you when you fail, but will come near you when you succeed.

Whatever the reason behind it, you should be reminded by the following:

  • Don’t expect too much because people have different mindset, and maybe they aren’t the same as yours.
  • Support yourself, no one would do that 💯 percent apart from you.
  • Prove something and be able to make progress.
  • Give gratitude for those who supported you from the very start.
  • Use those other people who criticized or who doesn’t support you as your motivation to strive, to keep going and to do your best.
  • Improve yourself through continuous learning.
  • Be able to keep those people who are true to you and let go of those who will just bring negativities into your life.
  • Be mindful of what you post in social media, remember that not everyone is happy for you!

At the end of the day, it’s just about accepting the flows of life!

Essential health benefits of squash

Essential health benefits of squash

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Health benefits of squash.

This post will tackle about the health benefits that we can derive from eating squash, together with simple recipes that you can prepare at home!

Squash is a vegetable in food preparation. It is a superb ingredient in baking and cooking.

Health benefits of squash:

According to our health food source:

  • Squash are rich in antioxidants.
  • May help in cancer prevention.
  • It contains vitamin C and beta-carotene.
  • Slows the progression of macular degeneration, improves eye health.
  • Helps to strengthen your immunity.
  • It contains vitamins and minerals which are essential in achieving overall health.
  • Rich in vitamin B, and helps reduced mood disorders, like depression.
  • Helps to enhance skin health.
  • High in fiber content, which helps to aid digestion.

Disclaimer: This post is intended for educational purposes only!